Fiance refuses to talk to me on his business trip...?

I actually understand this, but it's not my FMIL, but my own mother who does this to both my FH and me. I find that if you answer the simple, inconsequential questions truthfully and as though you don't get the vibe that she's digging for answers (I tend to just act somewhat aloof and pretend i don't know what she's doing) then if she gets more personal or reaches a point that I'm uncomfortable with I either give short, concise answers or simply say that that topic is something that either my FH and I are discussing on our own or just that it's not something I feel like talking about right now. You don't want to cut her out of knowing literally everything you do, so try to think of some things you don't mind discussing before you are around her and I would even offer up some of the info before she asks that way you don't come across as 'closed-off.'

hunny, sorry to say but in a way u are over reacting but i was there too. my husband is in the army. he just from back from a tour his 2. the first one we were dating he sent me flowers every week letters emails. phone calls. well this time around only a year and half later. nothing. not a single flower i got one card cause he has to send me a paper for taxes and in it he wrote here is your stuipd card. yes i would talk to him online and he thought that was enough. i wrote him at least once a month if not twice. and i had a house to take care of and a newborn and two dogs. but i did it. i have learned u have to be understanding. why not u send him an email letting him know u cant wait till he gets back and that u love. or a text. it would take him what 5 sec to look at it and i am sure it would put a smile on his face when he is all stressed out and busy. i am sure he is also stressed about the wedding i know my husband was. he was worse when he left our son was three weeks old the day he left. but i sent alot of pictures to him every day he loved it. he would show them off to his friends at work. just take it easy. and relax he is also learning that it is not just him any more. that there is a mrs. coming too. someone that he will have to worry about. give him a break and just look forward to him coming home.

What does your gut tell you?

Inappropriate behavior from someone your about to marry. I used to get the same responses from mine, when he was out of town. Change in his voice, agitated by my phone call, short answers, etc.. He's trying to put you in "your place" before you get married. Don't tolerate that behavior, it's disrespectful towards your soon marriage & you.

If your having doubts, you could always get a PI . There's way too many guys leading double lives out there, and you do deserve the best. Good Luck

I am sure if you were the one going away he would expect you to be able to talk to him! I think it is a little suspicious that he would not find any time to talk to you. He should want to talk to you. I am not trying to make you feel bad, but you are NOT overreacting. Anyone would have their suspicions in this situation. I would confront him about it by saying how much you missed him and wished he could of talked more. See if his story changes. Send him text messages at random times reminding him of you. See how it goes! Update me! i hope it all works girl.!

Yep its something very wrong...why cant he talk to you at night before he falls asleep? Can you call his room directly? Do you know where he is staying? Who knows, it sounds like he may have someone with him. This behavior is extremely suspect. The only time someone cannot talk to another person directly is in they are in the company of others. He's full of it! I know a neurosurgeon that's not that busy! It sounds like he may have a little side piece on that trip with him. I hope you found me helpful. The Relationship Guru!

if i were u, i would watch him. if it were possible i would have gone to where ever this business trip was and walked in on him. somethings not right about this. search his stuff as soon as possible. look for evidence of this trip via wallet for reciepts, computer for emails & etc, cell phone for numbers & call all suspicious ones, try to go on line to check his cell phone bill incase some numbers were deleted. if you dont have a password click forgot password and reset a new one what ever it takes to find out what you need to know. dig until you have searched everything. dont tell anyone at all

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW WHAT YOUR FUTURE IS GOING TO BE LIKE. THE BEST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN IS THAT YOU FIND OUT NOTHING. BUTTTTT IT YOU DO FIND OUT HE WAS WITH SOMEONE LUCKY FOR THE BOTH OF YOU THIS INFO CAME TO YOU BEFORE YOU MARRIED HIM.

If everything else is fine - and so far you have had a good understanding, forget this small distraction. People have different sensitivity levels. If only he could respond - it would have made your day - but sorry - no luck. No big deal either. You can expect improvement after marriage.

It sounds as if the convention is more than business and he just doesn't want to bother with you. I think he is insensitive and his attitude shows a lack of caring. You can't control what he does however and who wants to get a call from someone who is resentful that you demanded they do what you want? I sure wouldn't. I think this should be a red flag for you too.

I don't think you are over-reacting. If all is well, he SHOULD want to talk to you, being that he is so far away from you right now.

Are you sure it's just a business trip? Maybe he is entertaining someone...It sounds really fishy to me.

He sounds like he is too secretive. I would think twice about marrying him. It may be the start of your troubles. Do some checking and try to see what's up. Best wishes.