How can I stop myself from making the same mistake and falling? ?

Since it's with the person you're dating, you could relate to the Virtuous Wife passage, even though you're not married, it's still really good.

I like this part especially, and it has helped me: "She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12

I'm a really easy person to get along with, but I raise my voice at my mom sometimes. I struggle with this too, but I find that it gets better when you try to act more like Jesus, and pray about it. Another thing (that helps me with my mom) is to think of her as a smoldering wick, or bruised reed ("A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out." Isaiah 42:3) Realize that God would never argue with someone, or be angry with someone for selfish reasons. Yeah God has anger, but it's holy anger. I heard that at the heart of every conflict is a selfish heart.

I used to argue with my fiancee sometimes, like if he didn't agree with something I said, or if I thought he wasn't doing everything he could for me, I would just criticize him over everything...it's like I looked for something to be mad at him about. But now I have put things into perspective, and realized I don't have to be on top. The world doesn't revolve around me, and God will handle any troubles in my life, without my mouth getting in the way.

God isn't going to save you and bring you this far just to let you be stuck in something that He can and will deliver you from. You're not so far down. Realize that the tongue is a very powerful part of your body.

Also one of the best tips is to remember that it all starts with a thought. Guard your mind-- ("We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5) I heard a song called Slow Fade by Casting Crowns and the part that really strikes me is when he says "The journey from your mind to your hands is shorter than you're thinking."

Whatever you think about, or whenever you let your emotions take control of you, it's going to materialize in your life in a physical form.

Here is how to tame your tongue in the following Bible verses. (Which is what I am assuming is the problem in your life...because I can't imagine a Christian duking it out with fists). Your tongue can really sin against many, and you just let it slip in, because it doesn't seem so destructive, but it really is the most powerful part of your body. (Actually it is physically the strongest muscle too).

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

"Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:29, 31-32

"Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones." Proverbs 16:24

"He who guards his mouth preserves his life, but he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction." Proverbs 13:3

This one is one of my favorites on this subject and has helped me a lot: "A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks." Luke 6:45

"Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles." Proverbs 21:23

"Who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously." 1 Peter 2:23

Whenever I feel like arguing with my fiancee, I just stop and ask myself "What good will that bring? How would Jesus act?" I talk in pleasant tones to him, and make sure he knows I don't mean to be angry, or argue. I just want it to be worked out. Pray before you let our your anger. When putting so much energy into being angry, instead, avert that energy into good. Pray intensely instead of yelling intensely. The best thing I can do is thank God in the moment of tension for the blessings in my life, and for Jesus. When you praise God for all the good, you forget about what's upsetting you.

Prayer is the key to any problem getting solved. Believe me, I know where you're coming from. I used to have a huge anger problem. I mean, I would get mad extremely quickly, even over the little stuff, and then it was like I would just snap. I started praying more, worshipping more, and reading my Bible more. I just had to give God a bigger portion of my life. Now, I'm the happiest I've ever been, and I hope the same happens to you.

I'll be praying for you as well.

dont feel as though you are alone, because we live in the flesh it is nothin but "normal" to make the same mistakes knowin that they're wrong, includin me. if you look in matthew im not quite certain where i think its chap16, it reads "for what shall a man profit to gain the whole world and in the end los his soul", basically saying that we should not allow the flesh and these worldy things to distract us from the most important thing, God. there is nothing wrong wit makin mistakes, because how wud you eva learn and mature spiritually and mentally?? in order to stop from doing these things, all i can advise you to do is pray for guidance and understanding to keep a Godly character in you at all times

You don't need "Christian" help, you just need to make a decision and then stick to it. It's not easy, it takes will power, but it's still YOUR decision whether or not to continue making the same mistakes once you know they're mistakes. Take some responsibility. Not only for your mistakes, but for the solution.

Prayer in Jesus' name. And you need to allow Him entrance to your heart to root out that anger. The bible says out of the heart, the mouth speaks.

I understand completely losing your temper. It happens to me too and I hate that I still get "hooked" and answer in anger sometimes. Repent, call on Him, ask His help.

Before you even enter a situation in which you think you might lose your temper, take a page from one of the psalmists; they asked God to put a "guard at the door of my mouth". I do that often!

Are you not in control of your own emotions? That should be the easiest thing to maintain control over. Apparently Christianity isn't working out for you.

Try thinking on your own rather than letting "Jesus" do your thinking for you.

Forgive yourself. It may be the hardest thing to do, but it's the most rewarding in the grand scheme of things.

keeping your eyes on jesus will keep you from falling,obeying his word reading,and living it also prayer keep your mind on him and things will change

Pray.

Repent and abstain from anything that leads you back to that fallen point.