My partner suffers from depression and has decided he doesn’t want me in his life. ?

I have suffered from severe depression for many years...I'm in talk therapy and take Zoloft which has saved my life (lol and the lives of people around me..*snort snicker snort*)

I can tell you what he is doing..and honey it's NOT you...it IS him...I'm guilty of doing the same thing he's doing.

he's isolating himself...this is something that many depressed people do...they PUSH those that they love out of their lives because they get it in their heads that they are "not good enough" that they will "end up ruining your life" that they "don't deserve your love or to ever be happy"

they do this with their bf/gf...spouses...parents...siblings...their OWN CHILDREN...friends...co workers etc etc..they feel so low that they get to the point they cannot handle human contact...they feel like they do not deserve it, that they are not good enough, that they will never be good enough.

so what do you do about this?

you need to get real with him..tell him that even if he doesn't want to be with you..you are concerned for him, you want his happiness and that you want to be there to HELP HIM...then you tell him you feel he needs to go to a Dr and possibly get some meds, remember to tell him that you don't think he's crazy...but you do think he is depressed and that you love him and want him to be happy and well, offer to go with him if he's scared.

we are expected to take care of our bodies and to keep them healthy...the same should be true of our minds and our hearts...once depression takes hold it is something that is hard to shake...meds and therapy help tremendously in getting back on track and getting motivated to actually LIVE instead of just "existing"

you may have to be very blunt with him..this may make him more angry...but from my own experiences...having someone stand up..not to me...but to my depression and offer to help me was the best thing for me, because most depressants want that..they want you to help them.

if he shuts you out...talk to every friend and family member he has and have them do the same thing...suggest the Dr and meds...offer to go with him etc...the truth about depression is when left untreated...it only gets worse, some people become so lost and end up doing the worst they can do, so those that love him have to do what they can to help him...be strong and give him what help you can!

Boyfriend Suffers From Depression

depression or not , you can't make another person want you , sorry but it's true. You can't live anothers life for them no matter how much you care for them. I know it's hard and it's not going to be easy but I'd take him at his word (that he doesn't want you in his life any more) regardless of whether you believe this is the depression talking or not. When he contacts you tell him point blank that he asked you to not be in his life any more and you are honoring his request. Then tell him you can't do this just being friends and leave the ball in his court. In the meantime, volunteer, attend church services on sunday mornings, go for a walk in the park, go see a comedy at your local movie theatre, do you like to read? Catch up on some reading you'd been meaning to do. keep your mind and your body active and your spirit will follow. I have a friend who is wild about this guy but he travels for months at times. so she gets lonely. Well she hasn't heard from her guy since Dec 8th. She has gone on with her life without telling her guy whats happening at all. Shes made new friends and finding out she has interests she never knew she had before. Maybe that could be you.....

Good luck to you and God Bless!

Aaw babe life only works out for the best. God is aware of ur judgement as he also knows ur strength. Trust that whatever u go thru is exactly what is supposed to happen. I was in a similar situation 3 years ago and I cant say that im healed bc i want a baby more than ever b4. the pain was unbearable and made me feel inhumane. i felt so alone and abandoned, by my boyfriend i felt so lost yet trapped. But after a while I accepted the fact that it had already happened and no longer a part of me. I learned to accept and forgive many things I was unable to understand. I was 18 and naive, I long for a fairytale life..but realized that life will always have its ups and downs. There is no advice I can offer other than keep ur head up ma, look for the new possibilities that opened up for you...you can continue w school, earn much more money no worrying over babysitters, etc also talk to ur mother or grandmother it has some sort of healing effect. what doesnt kill u only makes u stronger-I can promise you that now u will have a new perception of life and u r going to know exactly what it is u need and want outta life. Stay up sweety.

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

Depression is hard to handle by your self, I would suggest for him to call his family physician. With everything going on in the world and the economy. Depression is growing everyday, we all need help once in a while. Just be a friend don't worry about rejection worry about him right now. My mom us to tell us Rejection can heal but Depression can kill.

Console yourself with the fact that it is much better to have a partner who is not depressed. Someone who is happy and emotionally stable. Your life will suck for a short time from losing him, but it will be better, much, much better with a person who doesn't stay depressed.

His "rejection" is probably due, maybe a lot, to his mental state. That doesn't mean that he'll like you if he's not depressed. It means that in his depression he feels like he doesn't deserve you, or maybe that he won't be able to keep you. Or somethign like that.

it's harsh for me to say this, but you are much better off with someone else. You cannot fix him, nor should you try.

how can you possibly feel rejected by a depressed person

I'd simply look at it as an inevitable result

depressed people are incapable of forming lasting relationships

and i would never even date much less hang around with such people

as by definition, they are negative people and thus have a bleak outlook on life

and when you are dating, you are not on the lookout for depressed people

so if anything he saved you untold grief and sadness

and for that I'd be happy

Depression is a disease and should be treated as such. Maybe you can gently suggest some counseling...preferrebly with a psychiatrist so they can put your partner on the proper meds if they are needed.

If he is bipolar...he might change his mind tomorrow and beg you back...this is a terrible disease to deal with for the families of bipolar patients. If you two work it out you should see counseling or a support group to help you to deal with your partners depression.

He's not rejecting you, he's simply choosing himself over you. I'd be willing to bet that you're a great girl, but he just can't stand to be controlled. Not that you are controlling, but that his feelings for you are so strong that it steals his time from himself. I think he's being strong and I also KNOW that he'll be back once he realizes that being without you leaves him feeling empty. Give it a few weeks or a month. Things will be back to normal if you want them that way.