My sister is asking my advice, what do I tell her.?

If she always shoots down the advice you give her anyways, tell her that this is something too big and too important for you to comment on.

I would like to know the reason(s) she and her husband have split in the past.

In the meantime, it sounds as if your sister has multiple issues.

1. She's looking to someone else to make her happy.

2. If she cannot live on her own, she's not yet a complete person. She needs to find out who she is, set some goals, develop a sense of herself and gain some degree of independence so she will feel better about herself and what she can/should bring to the marriage.

3. She's also suffering from the "grass is greener" syndrome. It's always easier to change your surroundings than it is to change yourself. The path of least resistance is rarely the most rewarding.

Also, when you are unfulfilled (not necessarily her husband's fault) anything and anyone else looks better. Yet, if she jumps into that other relationship whole-heartedly, she will bring with her all of her old baggage and unresolved issues; therefore, her history is doomed to repeat itself. It's only a matter of time.

Sounds like she is staying with her husband just for money, and that she thinks things will be better with the other guy (Grass is greener), which may or may not be true.

If I was you though, I would butt out, or make statements like I just made. Never suggest she take one course or another in these types of decisions. Just kind of state what is happening. Never answer "What would you do?" type of questions. Because if it goes bad, and she makes a decision that you agreed with and she ends up not happy with, she might resent you later, even though it's not your fault. Also, I personally do not want the responsibility for having given someone the advice that they should stay together, or split up.

Chad is right. If she is married and has kids, she and her husband should try to make things work out.

If even after they move away, they still are unhappy together, then they should consider ending it. But not before they give it a try. Counseling can really help them out if they are BOTH willing to try their best.

As for this other man, her friend, I'd be cautious. While he may mean what he said about caring about her; he might also just be sweet-talking her into having sex with him. She should stay away and not contact him while she works on her marriage.

Hopefully moving away from the family (problem) will help. She's the only one that can plan her future. Personally...I've been where she is. Moving away from the problem just made me face a little reality. When you run out of reasons to put blame somewhere else...then reality really hits home. I hope for her sake that once they move away, that her and her husband can really re connect. Just be there to listen as she vents as I don't believe she's at peace or happy. She will need someone to talk to, and it's good she has you. Hope this helps....

If she doesn't respect your opinion then why does she keep asking for it? Nicely ask her that. You need to tell her what you told us. It might help if you let her know it hurts your feelings when she asks for your advice then disrespects you for not telling her what she wants to hear rather than the truth. You are being a loving sister by giving her your honest opinions and she should keep in mind that you have her best interests at heart.

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She doesn't love him anymore.

What you or anyone else would tell her. To stay.

Its difficult for her right now. She is unhappy. When its time, she will be the one to decide which way to go.

Good Luck to her!

Tell her to go to a marriage counselor. Say, "you guys should go and get help from a proffesional, I wouldn't want to guide you the wrong way on accident."

I would tell her that I am not giving an opinion and she needs to make these decisions on her own.