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Should I feel bad about my 'weed' comment?
The other day some old friends of mine and me got together for lunch. I haven't seen these people since I was about 20. I am 25 now. We used to smoke marijuana together in high school (a LOT). I guess I assumed that we all grew up and got past that phase of our lives. I hadn't done that since I was 19 yrs old. One of the girls mentioned this couple whom I used to live next door too. I said, "I remember them, when I would walk past their house I could smell them smoking weed WHILE their kids where there! That's pathetic to pollute your children like that. If you feel the need to do illegal drugs in your house, at LEAST send the kids to the grandparents! It's a shame!" One of the girls became furious and starting spouting off things like "You think you are better than me? What do you know about that? I am not a bad mother, when I start smoking weed it helps me get down on my sons level. You are crazy. You're boring as @#!$ now ain't ya? Bet it ain't no fun to hang out with you....." etc. Turns out I am the ONLY one who does not still do that. They started making fun of ME, because I don't do that anymore and haven't in years. I was irate but said in the calmest, sweetest of voices, "I am sorry that you feel that way. But let me ask you one question: 'is this how you are going to be successful one day? is this what you want to build your life around?' I am the ONLY one of us to get a degree from college, a graduate degree at that, the only one to stay married or manage to not get arrested. I don't hang around people who steal my car or kill my pets. I am raising a secondhand-smoke free child. And you want to sit there and make fun of me?" With that I grabbed my purse, threw down the money for my bill, and left.
NOTE: I don't think smoking weed is that big of a deal but, doing it around your children is terrible. I think alcohol is 100 times worse than marijuana.
Response to Frankie V:
I understand the concept of educating your children about it, and I agree. One day when my daughter is older I will tell her all about it, I will even tell her that I used to do it. But my friend's son is 2yrs old. If you smoke with a child around you, no matter what you are smoking, the child is breathing in stuff that causes asthma and other respiratory diseases. I think it terrible to force someone who is too young and helpless to breath in that filth.
The main point is that they were laughing at me because I choose to be drug free, when they have obviously done nothing with their lives. My final comment was simply to show them how backwards that was.
ROSE: read my NOTE at the end again and then your answer.... you will see that I was right... you just read the note wrong
11 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I would definitely not have said that I would feel bad if I was you I mean your basically saying because you like to smoke weed now you suck at life and are unsuccessful, and are a huge waste of space. You need to apologize that was totally out of line. Oh and who cares if they didn't get a college degree like you I mean is that the only way you define success in life... I think you need to think this over.
- 5 years ago
I'd say that drinking, depending on how much is consumed, can severely impair vision and your actions. And drinking for years can be fatal to your liver. Smoking anything is essentially harming your lungs, so if you run or do cardio on a regular basis, smoking can be worse on you. Then again, smoking is illegal. haha Some say smoking is a psychological addiction, while others say it's a physical addiction. But it depends on the person. So I think it depends on what you see as more important to a healthy lifestyle.
- Frankie VLv 41 decade ago
If you educate your kids about marijuana, then you should be able to smoke in the house with them. The key is INFORMATION. If your kids know about weed, then it probably won't hurt them. Like you said, smoking weed doesn't mean you are a failure. You used to smoke weed. I know successful people who smoke weed everyday.
Your comment was judgmental of her lifestyle. Maybe it is bad for her to be smoking around her kids if she doesn't educate them about marijuana ... like if her kids just come to think it is something completely normal that has no negative side effects ever. But, secondhand marijuana smoke isn't going to do anyone any harm. Marijuana does have carcinogens, but it doesn't cause lung cancer. It causes lung cancer in laboratory rats, but not in humans. Anyway, maybe she is educating her kids about responsible marijuana use. Did you ask her if she is?
The key is to teach your kids about marijuana ... about the bad AND the good ... and whatever wisdom you've picked up from smoking. Because the public school system isn't going to teach them anything about drugs. Nothing. Only that drugs are always bad and you should never, ever do them or you will fail. That is crap. Marijuana has definitely enhanced many people's lives. It has also messed people's lives up. Just teach your kids about it so they know. Information is power. Scare tactics and lies lead to kids figuring out the negative side effects for themselves, when somebody could have just told them.
- AliveNsideLv 51 decade ago
After you realized your faux pas you should have been polite about it and changed the subject.
Your mistake was lecturing your 'friend'.
Its none of your business, and really, more to the point, your friends aren't going to change just because you disapprove. The lecture did nothing but make it worse.
We've all said things out of hand not realizing that the person we are speaking to completely disagrees or is even doing the very thing we spoke against. When that happens we are supposed to change the subject after an appropriate transitional phrase.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
I don't think that people should smoke in front of their children. However its not like you're completely out of control when you're high.
I plan on getting high after I have kids.
Smoking weed is apart of my daily life and I don't plan on changing that.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You're completely wrong. Marijuana is MUCH healthier than alcohol. As long as you aren't actually smoking with the children in the room, I don't see what the problem is.
- 1 decade ago
well Im a Mother ,
Ive never been arrested,
I smoke weed
I have my Masters
My own business in Plant Medicines
Marijuana isnt harmful to anyone
So I guess you were wrong about it .
- Jimmy CLv 71 decade ago
I have seen the effects of weed on many people. It is a pity they can't see it themselves. Although they think it it harmless, it is actually very detrimental to the brain. it is illegal for a very good reason.
Anyone who exposes children to illegal drugs should be locked up for child abuse.
- 1 decade ago
I did not read the question. in its entirely but get on with your life smoke or do not it is your choice then get over it,.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You sound kind of like douche. Yeah your comments were a bit excessive.