Have you ever felt like you could have prevented someone from dying?

Yes, actually I do....and that would be my 4 1/2 month old son. He died right next to me in his bed from SIDS. I always tell myself I should at least heard him gasp for air. But they don't make any sounds....their brain just forgets to tell them to breathe.

I'm sorry about your friend, and I know nothing I could say / do would make you feel better. Eventually the pain does fade. I swear it does. It stays with you in way, since there's always going to be something that reminds you of him, but pain does fade. What's hard to deal with and handle now, will eventually fade into the background and turns into a dull buzz of sorts. It gets easier.

To answer your question, yes. My son died three days after he was born. It was my fault too. As his mother I should have realized he was in trouble before it was to late to stop it. I hurt him when I gave birth to him too. He had Osteogenesis Imperfecta. When I gave birth I hurt him, I broke his shoulders and four of his ribs. The doctor holding him broke his hip, my husband kissed him right before he died and broke his cheek. It was horrible. He was my life, and my only job was to keep him protected, and I didn't, I hurt him. It's irony at it's worst I suppose.

Something happened with pills to a good friend of mine and sometimes i think i should have said that it wasn't ok to have a problem, but no I excepted her for who she was and loved her anyway she was. Im glad because she has become my guiding angel when I need guidance.

Yeah, my Dad. He commited suicide due to long time issues with my mom that I guess he couldn't handle anymore. I was only 9 at the time but sometimes I think if I would have just talked to him before hand, maybe he wouldn't have done it:(

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know it wasn't your fault. My grandfather died of pneumonia a few months ago. I was completely devastated, but I knew there was nothing I could have done about it.

It wasnt my fault that my ex husband died

he was born with a heart condition and had to take pills all his life

he never was expected to live long

but i think you always have that guilty feeling when someone you love desperately dies

i miss him to death and i can only hope to be with him again one day

Don't feel bad...I'm sure you had no idea about it. It's very hard to prevent things like that, a lot of the time

I've helped someone to not commit suicide...there were others too

Unfortunately that is part of the grieving process; thinking that you could have done something to prevent the death. I felt the same when my mom died and she had cancer.

There are 2 people in my life who took their own lives....

1 I think I could have helped.... the other no....

I used to think suicide was preventable... I was naive...

I now know that in most cases, there is nothing one can do when someone gets to that point of no return... short of committing them.... which is not possible most of the time... I know, because I tried...

Not a good point in my life.... but it taught me a lot

Yes, my daughter. When she was 16 years old, she wanted to go with her two girlfriends to a New Years party at a girl's house. I told her no but she begged and begged to go. We told her that she had friends at church and we were going to the midnight service. New Years eve, she was begging again to go and I told her no, so she left the room crying her eyes out and went to her room. I asked my husband maybe we should let her go. A loud deep voice said "NO"! I then told my husband he didn't have to yell, I was just wondering. He said, I didn't say anything. Boy the hairs stood upon my arm and I knew that God had spoken to me!

That night when we got home, my daughters phone was ringing and she went to answer it. Then I heard her screaming...her two friends was hit by a drunken driver and one was killed and the other was in serious condition. She had broken her back. That was when I said thank you God for saving my daughter through me. God directed me in saving my daughter's life.

I'm so sorry for your friend omg.

i once felt like if i would have tried harder to help my ex boyfriend with his drug problems he'd still be here he od'd as well. but i later on foundout that you cant help someone who doesnt want help. I tried to help him but he would just get angry. and he was mean to me anyway, so yeah. its ok don't blame yourself whatever you do. You were a friend to him and that's all that matters. He knew you cared for him i'm sure. You made his time good when he was alive.

I'll say a prayer for him ok? :)