How do you rebuild someones trust after you've lied to them?

Well, that would depend on what you lied about. Big lies that hurt a lot are harder to forgive. Its vital that you understand the effects your lies have caused, and your partners reaction and feelings of hurt to your dishonesty. Because basically a lie is a betrayal of trust. A betrayal in any form always hurts.

You MUST stop lying. You MUST make a sincere promise to not lie to them again - and you MUST keep that promise. You must also NOT keep secrets about important issues that your partner should be aware of. Thats as bad as lying to them. Be open, accountable and reliable.

You engage in consistently truthful, trustworthy and reliable behavior over time. Trust takes time to rebuild. You might consider agreeing to some behaviors or concessions to help your partner regain trust. You should do a google search on exercises or ideas for rebuilding trust. I did one and posted some links below. Most of the links I found have to do with affairs, but your issue may be different.

Good luck,

Dana (Registered Marriage and Family Therapy Intern)

To tell you honestly, it's hard to rebuild someone's trust. Trust is an assurance reliance to the character of a person. If you did lie to someone and he/she found out that you lied, you can't easily win his/her trust again..Because whatever your statement, he/she might think that you tell another lie again...

To win back the trust of someone, you have to work it hardly..This means, you must cost so much effort to prove to them that you've change. And you never lie again... But first of all ask forgiveness and accept your fault for lying and mostly, promise to them that you will not lie again..

Good luck!!!!

I don't think that once you have abused the trust of someone, you can rebuild it 100%. It will take a lot of work to even remotely start to build any kind of trust, but whatever you have done, it has tainted the relationship forever.

It is definitely going to take a lot of time. If you and the person are serious in making it work then I don't see why trust can't be gain again.

It takes a long time if ever. Put yourself in that person's place. How would you feel if he or she had done the same thing to you? Then you have your answer. Sometimes lies are so bad they can be forgiven but never forgotten. Then the relationship is over.

You have two choices. Lie better or stop lying altogether. I think if you stop lying and given enough time, they may start to trust you again.

It takes a lot of time and understanding. It also depends on the person,they may have a hard time .

I would start at the bottom and hope to build trust again.

Say I'm sorry

Say Please forgive me

Say I'm not going to do it again

Say What can I do to make you feel better

And don't lie anymore. You might have to answer a few unpleasant questions. Answer them honestly, no matter how scary it may be to you to tell the truth.