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Joe C asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

Friend who is having an identity crisis.?

My best friend is encountering some issues with her identity. I don't really know if she knows that she is having the problem or not, but I can most certainly tell. In the past 4-6 months, she has been starting to cuss and hang out with people who have a bad influence on her. She was/is being raised in a Christian family and she loves God. Now cussing itself isn't really so bothersome to me (we all cuss sometime or another) unless its public and frequent, which is what this has turned into. Drugs, I know she isn't doing that. Sex, same deal. Lots of talk about it though. Alcohol, not so sure. Its VERY obvious to me that she is just trying to fit in.

Basically I think she is starting to turn sour from the sweet person that I used to know and love. I don't know exactly how to approach the subject. I wrote her a song a while back, I'm giving it to her this weekend for her birthday. Its about the situation that I see. But it seems like I need to talk to her more about the thing that I see happening.

In the town we live in, its pretty hard to find a friend who I can completely relate to and just hang out with. Not serious relationship, not awkward relationship- just friends being friends. So she is my bff and I really don't want her to end up where she shouldn't be. I don't know best for her, but I DO know that what she is doing isn't good for her. Please keep in mind that she's different. Not really the kind of person to get into cussing publicly and experimenting with things that she shouldn't.

I just need advice on how to approach the matter and what steps to take if maybe its not working. Its just not her personality to do what she is doing.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Wow, it sounds like you're a really good friend! I think that you should talk to her about your concerns. Just keep in mind that she needs to go through what she think she needs to go through. She may make some bad decisions and be enamored with her new friends and the life they live. This is pretty normal, she's growing and changing and figuring out who she is. A lot of it may just be talk too, so don't be too worried. One thing about being a good friend is allowing that person to be the person that they need to be, even if you don't always agree with their choices. Remember, you are responsible for your choices and she's responsible for her choices. But that doesn't mean you can't be a voice of reason or guiding light in her life and still be a good friend to her!

  • 5 years ago

    If you're serious on this, which is doubtful, then there's a chance he has Multiple Personality Disorder.

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