What would you do in these shoes?

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You're a 23 year old man who's girlfriend has just taken off to France for school for the next ten months and you'd been with her for 8 years. Then she breaks up with you on a social networking site and immediately puts up pictures of her with her new boyfriend. 
Eight years... that's a long time... you love her though... unconditionally. And would take her back if she asked you.

It also happens that one of your friends told another friend of yours what happened, and she comforts you and is there for you, literally, all the time. You've known this girl for 7 years and over the past two years you've become basically best friends.
Then you sleep with her (but this is nothing new because you've slept with her a million times when you were with your ex of 8 years).

In a situation like this, would you grow feelings for this girl? Or would you use her as a rebound until your ex comes back and tries to get back together?
If you were the ex, would you still have feelings for him?
And if you were the girl he's with now.. what would you do?

Marc M · Accepted Answer

If I were the guy, it's likely that I'd probably still want the ex, and not the girl I could have at anytime.  My feelings probably wouldn't grow, and she would only be a rebound.  The ex probably doesn't have feelings for him anymore, which is why she moved on.

If I were the girl he's with now, I'd drop him and find someone who wants to be with me exclusively.  This statement reveals it all: "which is why ***she's doing this to herself***."  The relationship cannot work; the girl knows it, and she's only deluding herself.  There are many, MANY other quality guys out there, and so there's no need to compete for this one (who's not that into you).

Anonymous · Answer

I been the hopelessly in love girl in this situation  - I told him to go away.
And he came back saying he missed me.
So now Im at part 2. Saying if he wants me cut off ex . 
But he wont.
If ex is horrible. new girl will be  missed.But ex will be wanted.
It will make him miss his ex, but see what he could havve with new girl, and move on.

kitty cat · Answer

if you really love your ex than it would prbably take time for you to get feelings for the other girl!you probably would just think of her as a rebound and would take back your ex immediatly ...if i was your ex and found out you were cheating on me i would just move on because i dont like cheaters and im sure she doesnt..especially since you did it a lot and your messing around with that girl now!and if i was the other girl i would find someone who really wants me!

Anonymous · Answer

Well, if I were in an eight year relationship, I wouldn't throw it away so carelessly.  And I certainly wouldn't publicize it on Facebook - or whatever.  Makes me wonder how much either of you value the relationship, if you're both willing to be so disloyal.

Tsunami · Answer

frist of all its best you all broke up its sad it went so long but you were both not true to each other so its not really love and if you did hook up and marry it wouldn't last long anyhow if you care for this girl you have messed with i would try and see but you have to know you are now offthe x and i am sure she wont' be back. take carea nd good luck with other girl if that is what you care about.

Wynter · Answer

Hmm.. this is really confusing! 

I would most likely fall for the girl. It will help you get over past relationships and most likely grow bigger, better ones :D

? · Answer

Good Grief.

? · Answer

The first ones. ♥

Kenton J · Answer

dance dance dance

Anonymous · Answer

don't you have some grass to mow or something?

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