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My dad has been an alcoholic my entire life. I talked to him recently and he said he's been unable to keep most foods down. This has apparently been an ongoing issue, but has only just become so consistent. He claims to feel healthy otherwise, an not feel sick at all. He says he's been drinking less beer, which I can believe as he seems to be pretty solid 98% of the time we speak.

I can't help but be concerned about his health given his history. I asked some basic questions, and told him he should see a doctor. Being a senior and living off of social security, and having just filed bankruptcy and losing his home of 30 years, he obviously cannot afford to see a doctor. He has a medicinal cannabis prescription from our former family doctor, of which the renewal is due soon. But not soon enough, not if he can't keep solids down.

He *seems* fine otherwise, but I can't say for sure as I have not actually seen him for 6 months. What do you think this random and incessant vomiting is being caused by? Personally I get the feeling I need to prepare myself for my first major loss, if you catch my drift. It's so like him to be in such denial.

My dad has been an alcoholic my entire life. I talked to him recently and he said he's been unable to keep most foods down. This has apparently been an ongoing issue, but has only just become so consistent. He claims to feel healthy otherwise, an not feel sick at all. He says he's been drinking less beer, which I can believe as he seems to be pretty solid 98% of the time we speak.

I can't help but be concerned about his health given his history. I asked some basic questions, and told him he should see a doctor. Being a senior and living off of social security, and having just filed bankruptcy and losing his home of 30 years, he obviously cannot afford to see a doctor. He has a medicinal cannabis prescription from our former family doctor, of which the renewal is due soon. But not soon enough, not if he can't keep solids down.

He *seems* fine otherwise, but I can't say for sure as I have not actually seen him for 6 months. What do you think this random and incessant vomiting is being caused by? Personally I get the feeling I need to prepare myself for my first major loss, if you catch my drift. It's so like him to be in such denial.

My birthday is in a couple weeks now and I have no plans or idea of what to do for the big 21. So far, my mom has offered to take me out for drinks, and my sister wants to hang out with me too.

I never go out or do anything night-life related, so this will be my first experience of the like.

I have established that I DO NOT WANT TO GO TO A CLUB. It's not my scene, not my kind of music or anything. I am also not going to get drunk (not a drinker, but I'll be forced to have at least 2 drinks on that day). So, my lameness leaves me with zero creativity here. What should I do? What should I wear?

If it helps I'm in the San Francisco, CA area.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years tomorrow. We've of course had our issues, and are currently in a pretty good place in our relationship - we communicate well and haven't been fighting, etc.

Something that's hit me on and off over the past couple years is the fact that he doesn't have a job. He's had a couple temporary jobs in the span of our relationship, but he also hasn't even really been looking for a job.

I kind of feel like I restrict him - I don't have my license or a car, so I rely on him to drive me to where I need to go in exchange for gas money indefinitely. He's always felt very restricted to MY schedule, because I would go to school and work at specific times, and he felt it most convenient to be available all of the time. It's sweet and it's selfless and everything, and I really do appreciate it, but I'm beginning to feel like this has become an excuse to not find a job.

This is tough on us, as I am unemployed myself and seeking work. I have made it clear to him that I can take the bus just fine (I can even get free bus passes) and I know my way around, but he insists on driving me around.

This results in me paying for our dates (which we don't really go on because I don't think it's fair that I've had to pay for all but two dates we've been on in the past two years), the food he eats at home, his toiletries (toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, razors, shampoo..), pretty much everything; I ultimately support him financially all the time.

I don't think that this is necessarily something worth ending a relationship over, but I definitely don't think this is fair to me. I've tried talking to him about it, and he's explained he feels restricted, I offer solutions, nothing ever happens. How can I change this without the situation getting "ugly" and how can I encourage him to have his own life?

Seriously, I don't want to hear any of that "I only use MAC/BE/some other ridiculously priced product" crap because I KNOW. I know. I was just using bareminerals, but it's SOOO expensive. Same with MAC and all that other stuff.

So I've been messing around with the drug store stuff. I think the best coverage I've ever found was perfect match liquid set with the compact and some CG studio powder. But that alone is a massive expense. I have really good skin that's just oily.

I stick to the oil-free stuff and have recently been experimenting with powder foundations by CG. I tried simply powder and loved it, but the shades were kind of dark for me as I'm paper white. So now I'm using their ultimate finish liquid powder and... I'm just not sure. I only got it because I was convinced, after reading reviews, that it would be a good shade match and it's alright. It feels weird on my face and I feel like I'm still kind of oily. If I decide I don't like it, then FML because I can't afford to get a different makeup for a while.

Have you tried this makeup and what do you think of it do you have any good recommendations etc etc. Thanks!

A couple years ago I filed a child support case in CA. The father is in OR. Just like, last month I got a notice from the state saying that I'm owed $300/mo as of April, which currently adds up to $2400 that I have not seen.

The father is completely out of the picture, I have nothing to do with him, no idea where he is, and the only thing I know for sure is that he's selling drugs somewhere in OR if he's not dead. And that he got papers about a court-ordered child support order in the mail. Apparently though, my state was able to locate him. Whatever.

Anyway, what's going to happen to him for not paying his child support? Will my child and I ever get that money? Will the father go to jail and if so, after how much is owed? Are there any actions I can take?

I heard that after a certain amount is owed there will be a suspension on driver's license and such, but I know he doesn't have a license and would never fork out the money for one. Let alone a car. (Gets in the way of spending all his money on drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes).

Anything else? At all?

Now I'm not convinced that the world is going to end or anything like that; at most I figured that *if* some kind of planetary alignment happens it would knock out our satellite reception for a day or so.

But, I was just talking to my dad and was intrigued. He was listening to a radio show a few days ago, live, and the radio hosts were discussing 2012 theories when the station got a caller. This person claimed to be from the future, he wasn't allowed to say what year. He said that something huge will happen in 2012 but it's not what we think; that aliens are going to come to our planet and everyone will know when it happens.

Clearly this caller may have been mentally ill or something, but I mean - it seems like a legit theory. I'm racking my brain about the possibilities of time/speed travel, what could attract extraterrestrials to us, etc. I've always thought that we were to them what experiment rats and mice are to us. And quite honestly, I don't even like to think about aliens because the prospect just makes me paranoid.

Obviously the topic has stimulated me - so I want to know what you think about it. Do you think anything significant will happen? What do you think about this theory, and why do you feel that way?

I think something is wrong with him, seriously wrong. I don't think he's bipolar, I think he's effing psychotic. Anti-social personality disorder status with like, mild ADD (because of how he acts out to maintain the spotlight and media attention). He emotionally and psychologically abuses Heidi, she doesn't leave because he's made her think she deserves it! The poor girl feels worthless and he's manipulated her life! He's isolated her from her family, her friends, her life. I'm sure he manipulated her into getting all that plastic surgery. I don't think he beats her, I think he scares her, and probably threatens her too. Honestly, I feel for Heidi. I don't think she's stupid for staying with him, I think she's scared sh.tless of leaving him. She's defending his character on camera because she's scared of what he might do if she doesn't. Wouldn't you be if you were in that kind of relationship? I don't think it's fake per se, I think the Hills is crap (I'm not a frequent watcher, but I didn't think much of it until I heard about their split and then later that night seeing an old rerun of when they moved in together.) All of these psychotic tendencies have been persistent since the beginning - him pushing one person out of her life to the next. He worked his way on to her family... what's the problem here? HE IS!

I really think he needs a psychological evaluation and therapy. Really, it's sad because to the best of our knowledge, he doesn't hit her. We don't see bruises or marks or cuts or anything. So authorities have no interest in the situation because it's not evident that either party is in life-threatening danger.

What do you think of him?

I just started my first semester in college (I'm 20. And a mom, this is relevant) and I'm doing horribly. I'm majoring in psychology, and this is something I definitely want to pursue - I'd like to be a therapist someday. The thing is, there's room for improvement - I'm just having a lot of trouble making that happen. I'm terrible at math, and that's the class that I'm failing the hardest. I'm also doing poorly in psych, and my other general ed classes, and even P.E. (please don't ask how you fail that. I don't know how to tell you) I'm really trying to take school seriously, but it's so hard and I've been having trouble handling school.

Plus I have a three year old, and he's a handful. On top of that, early last month I was diagnosed with three different psychiatric disorders and put on SSRI's and some other antidepressant. So now I'm in therapy. Early this year I went through the foreclosure of my childhood home; I had to help my dad move 30 years worth of crap out of the house for two weeks after I started school. I went into the semester feeling totally confident and on top of the world, and now I'm just feeling like it's not worth it anymore (which lol is so relevant to one of the conditions I was diagnosed with).

Anyway, I've come to a major decision now. I was working part-time for a family member, and these kids I watched for this person had developmental disorders and I had a lot of problems with them. This family member "fired" me, but is still paying me weekly because of everything I'm dealing with (and to my family, me going to school is like, a huge thing because I used to not go ever). Now they're beginning to struggle financially, and I still haven't found a new job (I've been looking for two months and nothing!!! Not even a phone call!) and I took a break from looking to try to get back to being dedicated to my studies but to no avail.

I have the option of taking up a year of vocational training and I've kind of always wanted to be a makeup artist/hair stylist, when I was young that was what I HAD to be when I grew up but once I had a kid it was like "I need to be a little bit less practical" and decided on psychology. Anyway, I've been thinking about getting certified, then getting a job with my certificate, then going back to school to study psychology.. I'm just having a lot of trouble actually making the decision because it's a really long, messy process with transcripts, school, financial aid, etc. My boyfriend has been by my side (literally, we live together, and go to school and have all the same classes) through all of this and I would feel like I'm letting him down because he's doing so well in school and he's going back in the summer. If I do vocational - it would have to be at another school and it would be so difficult. I don't know what to do.

Thank you, to those of you that read all of this.

My boyfriend's ex?

They were together for 8 years, basically, and almost immediately upon their breakup, he and I got together. I think it may be that I just know too much, like how he had gotten her pregnant, bought her a ring, a really nice guitar. In December (14 months into our relationship) I helped him dispose of her crap, and crap of "theirs" such as photo albums, stray pictures, little love letters and trinkets and stupid little gifts she had given him. I feel kind of insubordinate, and I think it's because I feel like I know too much about their relationship (I have known my boyfriend for 7 years); or perhaps I even know just enough to be jealous, or don't know enough to be repulsed. I don't feel like he wants her back, but I feel like I need to live up to her standard and I feel pressured by him to do so. He and I have a rather significant age difference (5 years) and they were only a year apart so I've gone so far as to letting mySELF go... I cut my hair like hers, bought clothes like hers, and even developed a demeanor I imagine she would have. I feel ridiculous but I can't help it because I love my boyfriend a lot and I don't want to lose him, so I guess I'm trying to be what I feel like he wants. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm losing my mind. Advice? Gentle criticism? Anything that doesn't suggest I remove him from my life maybe?

I was bored earlier and went through my boyfriend's texts. Of course I found one from a contact called "M" at like 4am saying sorry they weren't looking at their phone and asked if he was awake. The text after that was from the same person, this time at 10am, and it just said "I want you." I have no idea what to think of this! I went through his sent and saw no sent texts to that person..

Sometime a couple weeks ago I was using his phone (I don't have a cell phone and choose to not have one) to text my brother and he asked if I was going through his texts and stated that he has nothing to hide from me.

Now he's been trying to tell me to stop talking to pretty much every guy I know. I'm no idiot, and I'm very aware of the psychology behind this.

What do you think, what would you do, and how would you bring this up with him?

Skinny jeans that stretch? I'm talking dark washes..

Websites, store names, anything's appreciated.

And boots and flats to wear with them, if so.. =D

Would you wear with skinny jeans? And shoes, too. Accessories if you want to throw those in there.

For ANY style/look.

What would YOU choose?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months, and we've known each other for seven years. He normally doesn't keep things from me, I've always been one of the few (and by few I mean 2 or three) people he can talk to.. but I can't help but have a weird feeling about this.

The past couple times we've hung out have been pretty bland. He wasn't very talkative. We've barely spoken in the past week, aside from the occasional "hi" via IM or text. From what I'm told, he has basically just been working and sleeping - but that's coming from him. He DOES sometimes sleep a lot, but not for 24 hours.

I think putting an emphasis on his struggles with clinical depression might be important, but honestly, I'm coming up with any excuse to make myself think something other than "is he cheating on me?"

Basically, I'm worried that he's either cheating on me or it's a health-related issue. Any input?

You're a 23 year old man who's girlfriend has just taken off to France for school for the next ten months and you'd been with her for 8 years. Then she breaks up with you on a social networking site and immediately puts up pictures of her with her new boyfriend.

Eight years... that's a long time... you love her though... unconditionally. And would take her back if she asked you.

It also happens that one of your friends told another friend of yours what happened, and she comforts you and is there for you, literally, all the time. You've known this girl for 7 years and over the past two years you've become basically best friends.

Then you sleep with her (but this is nothing new because you've slept with her a million times when you were with your ex of 8 years).

In a situation like this, would you grow feelings for this girl? Or would you use her as a rebound until your ex comes back and tries to get back together?

If you were the ex, would you still have feelings for him?

And if you were the girl he's with now.. what would you do?

My son will be two in June and I'm having trouble figuring out something to do for his birthday.

I want to do a party, but I'm kind of torn here.

I'd like to do something fun, but there are some things preventing that.

For instance, the other children that will be at his birthday party will be my 6 year old nephew, my 6 year old brother, and my 6 month old niece. I thought that something like Chuck E. Cheese would be fun, but my brother is highly allergic to milk.

I considered a beach thing, but that's kinda out of the way.

Does anybody have any suggestions?

Alright, my goal is to lose at LEAST 20 pounds by June. (bikini season!)

I am floating around somewhere in the 150's right now, perhaps in the higher 140's. I'll be 19 this year, I'm 5'1" and am working off the 100 pounds (seriously) that I gained while pregnant with my son.

For the most part, at the moment, I look alright from the side - the pouchy tummy part, I mean. My skin's finally tightening up...

But from the front I'm kind of wide, I have love handles that are wider than my hips a little bit - how can I get rid of this?

Please suggest to me some exercises, diets (I'm open to anything at this point), and products for my skin that I can use to lose this weight and look healthy and be comfortable with myself. Any help is appreciated.

Pole dance lessons, that is.

Just for fun, something to do with your free time and as a workout.

Would you do it? Why or why not?

For a sophisticated young woman look.

(I'm 18 btw)

Hair, makeup, nails, clothes, and shoes.

Thanks =D

My father suffers from chronic back pain and has received a permit to grow and smoke (or ingest) cannabis for relief.

Since I had my son (epidural FAIL) I have suffered chronic back pain as well. My father printed out a form for me, so that I can take it to the doctor and have it signed and thus be legally able to use cannabis therapeutically.

I must admit that I have smoked marijuana for the pain and it has worked significantly.

I inquired on this site before about excessive back pain; this has been going on with me for over a year and a half and I have not yet seen a doctor for it.

I am covered under my stepdad's insurance and I am hesitant to have this form signed, as I would rather keep this situation a private matter.

I also do not know exactly how to go about having a doctor sign this form, and whether I need a record of the history of my condition for the doctor to sign it. (the only record would probably be that the epidural was administered, and the nasty scar on my back from it)

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.