What to do when hubby forgets your birthday?

My bday is a little over a week away. I have been married for over ten years and my hubby better not forget my bday. I don't need a present, or anything extravagant, but i do want to be acknowledged. If he forgets, i wont say anything right away. i prob would wait a week to see if maybe he'll remember....so dont jump the gun just yet. wait just a lil, and if he still doesnt mention it, dont make a huge fit about it. Just say something like damn I cant believe you forgot my bday". the guilt would be torture enough. btw..i hope you have a great one! remember, we dont get older, we get wiser!

I'm sure your feelings are hurt, and rightfully so. However, keep in mind that your hubby is working all night and sleeping all day. That in itself makes anyone a little less mentally on top of their game, ya know? I worked night shift for several years and believe me.....it isn't what our brains are wired for and it really does make you a little under par as far as memory and things like that go. Secondly, men as a rule just don't remember dates. My own husband barely remembers his own birthday. Your hubby isn't ignoring an important day for you on purpose, so please don't let your hurt feelings get you into that frame of mind. I'm sure hubby would feel horrible if he knew he'd hurt you, even unintentionally. In past years, you say you've always reminded him and this year you didn't. Well, you've somewhat set the stage by doing that. Every year he gets a reminder ahead of time. This year he didn't, but probably just assumed you'd remind him because that's what you have always done. The majority of men just don't remember birthdays and things. You have to just accept that it wasn't in any way an intentional snub or your day. When he's awake and coherent, I'd just say, "Hey, my birthday was today and since we didn't get to celebrate because you had to work I thought this weekend we could go to__________ or do_________ to celebrate." Just saying that without throwing in any jabs or acting all hurt will have more impact than anything else you could do. He'll realize that not only did he forget your birthday, but you didn't act like a child about it. He'll appreciate that more than you know and in the end, you'll benefit from it. Happy Birthday to you and best of luck!

My birthday was last Thursday and pretty much the same thing...but I don't really care about my birthday anymore because I'm an adult and it's not that big of a deal. So anyhow...I decided to make it a game and see if he could go the whole day without remembering. I was going to wait until the next day then my girlfriend was going to call him and ask to take me out for my birthday that was "yesterday". My plan was to totally make it a joke and call him out on it...fortunately for him, he remembered and scribbled a happy birthday on some paper and made it a 'card' and gave me $20 later that night. Not really romantic, but I'm an adult and men are forgetful about that kind of thing so instead of making it a big deal, I laughed it off and made a fun game out of the fact that he forgot. It's not that serious.

I know this hurts kind of but really- he's probably gonna remember later and feel like crap. These things happen. Unless this is just part of a pattern of rude behavior that has been going on- it was probably an honest mistake. But if a couple days pass and still nothing- I would calmly tell him my birthday was the other day. It hurt my feelings that you forgot. It will probably never happen again.....

He is a man, and men do not have the greatest memories.. It is bad that he has forgotten your birthday, but with the shift thing it might just be hard for him. Just remind him! Or say something like, "What a birthday.." But not in a harsh way, just sigh it almost... See what he does :S Happy birthday!

I know how that feels. I just used to cry whilst in the shower. One year my eldest son knocked at the bathroom door and said "is it your birthday, Mum" I said yes. So I got a notelet from my son but nothing from the then husband.

You stated that your husband works nights maybe he was just soo exausted that he just went straight to sleep and wasnt even thinking straight to know that he should have wished you a happy birthday first.If this is the first time this has ever happened i am sure you have nothing to worry about.I bet he will wake up and make it up to you.Let us know how it works out and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are you wrong to feel what you feel? Absolutely not.

Are you wrong to expect someone else to read your mind (feelings) and guess your expectations? Absolutely yes.

What you feel is neither right nor wrong. What you need to ask yourself is, "Does he know how I feel?" He doesn't read minds.

If you have expectations about how you'd like your birthday to be remembered, you are responsible to clarify them. Having said that, you must remember he is NOT required to meet your expectations. He is free to act as he chooses. But once you have communicated your feelings and expectations and he chooses how to respond to them, then you have something solid to work on in a discussion.

Loving someone does not guarantee matching feelings & expectations in similar situations. You can't read his mind, he can't read yours. Every individual is responsible for their own feelings, expectations, and intentions. If he doesn't "pick up" on your cues, it's your job to clarify your own heart and let him off the hook for reading your mind.

BTW, happy birthday =)

my partner forgot my birthday and the day after i reminded him so he couldn't pretend he'd remembered .then on his birthday i made a big deal bought him pressies a cake a good time in bed then made him feel really bad he'd forgotten mine. then this year he took me to prague to make up for the year before. i played the long game and it eventually paid off. make him feel bad tomorrow.

i often am so excited abotu a birthday celebration that i remind my hubby weeks ahead of time so he cant forget. If you have always reminded him can you blame him forgetting this year,