Should I tell her my feelings? But I'm risking friendship. What should I do?

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Ok, so there's this girl that I really like.  She lives next to my dorm room and I met her on the first week of school.  We hang out a lot and just do random things and chill together.  The thing is that she's a sorority girl.  So she's obviously used to being with a bunch of guys so it's really hard for me to tell if she likes me back or not.  Even when she knows a bunch of guys, she's only been in relationships with "bad" guys in the past so she's never had a true boyfriend.  So she obviously doesn't like relationships because of this but I want to be the one that's there for her.  Then, there's also the other issue of dating a sorority girl too.  This situation just has to be this complicated.  She says I'm easy to talk to and I noticed she's become more and more comfortable talking with me as the school year went by.  Valentine's day is coming up and I'm unsure of what to do.  It's hard for me to be honest with my feelings but I want her to know I like her.  But, I don't know if she likes me or if she just wants to be friends.  In that case, I don't want to jeopardize our friendship because she's really close to me.  Any advice or suggestions on my current situation? Thankss :]

~Cool Lady Marie~ · Accepted Answer

I think you should just tell her...explain to her the same thing you said here about having reservations about her being in a sorority and everything and just tell her how you feel but make sure she knows that if it's not mutual that you don't wanna force it nor do you want to lose her friendship which will make her feel more comfortable with the situation.  My and my current boyfriend started off as really good friends, I even considered him my best friend (even now) and we waited like 9  months to press the issue because we knew we both had feelings for each other and now we're in a great relationship so I got the best of both worlds...a lover and a best friend in one person.  Hope it works out for you but if nothing else, you'll at least still have a good friend.  Good luck!

WILD*CHILD · Answer

Run the hell away from her. MARK MY WORDS, you will get hurt very badly if you don't. Don't fall for her. Whatever you do, you MUST not care about the outcome of your relationship to her. I'm serious dude, I've been where your at and I've had to learn the hard way. Sleep with her if you want, she doesn't sound like relationship material. You'll only get hurt. I know the type, she doesn't know what she wants. You can't teach a bad dog good tricks. You said shes only been with bad boy. Dude thats another huggggggggggggggggggggggggggggge red flag.

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Sunny · Answer

ok I'm not sure here. But I do know.. you don't want to fall into the 'gay" friend category with her. The guy she feels is one of the girls! that is why they say girls go for bad boys. But that is not always the case of course. Just be careful that you'er not like girlfriends with her.

Anony · Answer

it sucks, but you would know if she liked you. always do the touch test man... so how many times when you guys hang out how many time she initiates contact with you. read her body language it isn't hard. and personally if you tell her how you feel i think it completely ruins what you had going. so just let it ride out man. no point in getting all mushy.

Sychic · Answer

just go for it man
if you dont all you will be wondering is WHAT IF???
you should give it a go
i wish you all the luck
trust me i am in the same situation
good luck

? · Answer

if she likes you and would want to be with you she will make every effort to let you know. as for now chill.

Anonymous · Answer

u just got into the friend zone...

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