Gender Dysphoria in Islam - Please help?

Assalamu 'alaykum brother. I think that you should consult a Islamic scholar/imam/sheikh for advice and do it in confident. Obviously you are looking for knowledge and help and they are the best people to go to in this kind of situation.

Insha'Allaah, they can help you. But I do think you should try and come to terms with it and get therapy. Remember, this life's a test and Allaah is watching us all the time. He propbably wouldn't have put you in this situation if you can'r handle it. For all you know, this single trial could be what gets you into Jannah.

Stay strong, wa salaam.

P.S. Ignore Aashiq!

how though? women are so beautiful..everything about them just radiates with softness and love and comfort. Do you not have those kinds of desires? what beauty do you seen in a man? well physically speaking at least.

everyone has their own struggles. If this is yours then conquer it the way others conquer theirs. Try getting married as soon as you can, maybe a womans touch can give you exactly what you need to boost the right feelings and expel the wrong ones.

Remember Allah only tests you with which you can handle. If you couldn't over come you wouldn't be in this situation in the first place. If you do work hard, struggle and overcome, the rewards will be endless.

"Allah tasketh not a soul beyond its scope... Our Lord! Lay not on us such a burden as thou didst lay on those before us! Our Lord! Impose not on us that which we have not the strength to bear! Pardon us, absolve us and have mercy on us, Thou, our Protector" 2:286

Basically Allah (swt) would not give you something you couldn't handle. This is probably your test in life, and you Can get through this. I know not about what the Qu'ran or hadiths may say about this so I ask that you go to a scholar or the imam in a mosque. As long as you believe in Him, and pray that he will help you through this, you will have victory in the end.

Also, from my point of view, just think of everyone as friends- I don't know about people with Gender Dysphoria but i find it quite easy to just act like a friend to everyone, and not worrying about sexual attractiveness until I've really found someone I care about. I hope that you'll bear this pain a while longer, until maybe you've found a woman you do really care about.

I think I'd keep quite about it and private because your religion is the type that leaves nothing to God to judge i.e. you might be in danger from fanatics.

Neurodevelopmentally, I think you are what you feel you are i.e. a woman , but I just don't think the man who made up your religion ever factored such a phenomenon into his "true version" of God so as a puzzle to them you could be in danger

You may be a hidden intersex person. You probably are by your statement that this started at age 4.

Unfortunately, getting a chromosome test can be a political hotbed as there are powerful forces who want to keep hidden from the world the effects of the industrial pollutants in messing with the human endocrine system and creating what are called pseudo-hermaphrodites, meaning by our chromosome patterns we were not supposed to be hermaphrodites but we have "disorders of sexual development" that have messed up our bodies so we are either visibly intersex or males hidden inside female bodies and females hidden inside male bodies.

I suggest doing as much of your own research on disorders of sexual development and conditions you might have before talking to doctors. Unless you are dealing with specialists to start with, you may have to educate them somewhat. I did and things got really screwy when I finally convinced them to do a chromosome reading, there was interference. But they cannot take away physical evidence I have on my own body of male anatomy unless I would have went along with the exploratory surgery that suddenly was suggested by these two "researchers" who showed up out of nowhere all of a sudden and asked me the strangest questions.

Go to web site of World Health Organization, put in search terms, "gender and genetics" or "gender and genomics" and begin reading what comes up. The second page in the series has a list of chromosome patterns and some medical conditions -- it's just a place to begin, not a place to stop your research, but you may find the medical condition you have in their list.

I'm an intersex person, if you want to talk to me more about it, and I have many links to research on the industrial pollution that is culprit in all this, please email me.

Knowledge is power. Many intersex people suffer from gender confusion for years, feel they are outcast, don't understand themselves, others don't understand them and treat them with scorn and rejection, they are mistaken as gay and persecuted with homophobia (which is also wrong against gay people), and they have a higher than average suicide rate of course. Knowledge is power against such tragic endings and we have each other to call upon for support when the obstacles are too much. And for intersex people, the obstacles are a lot in our world. There is science that explains you, your right to exist, and your right to love who Allah has ordained for you to love despite your medical conditions.

Edit: I just read other answers. After all the education I have done on this forum about intersex people, I am floored at the answers from some of the people who I know have been following along. IS ANYONE LISTENING, or does it all go in one eye and out the other?

In addition to referring to a scholar, you might try to re-asses yourself first...

why is it that you are sexually attracted to males?

Are these just carnal desires, if so, where will they lead you?

Temptation and carnal desires are nothing worth giving into. They are relief for now and regret for ever after, in my opinion.

Is it admiration or attraction? They are two different things, I have a feeling you just seem to be in admiration for a few brothers/friends.

Admiration can be of personality, physique, mentality...etc. But this is not limited to one sex.

Perhaps you just haven't found the right person for you...the person worth your admiration and someone who would admire you.

but before others can admire you, shouldn't you learn to admire yourself? Who are you in terms of thought and personality, there's no need to attempt to fit into the male stereotype or the female stereotype, you just need to find your own self and build confidence in it. Define your personality, then accept the body that acts as a vessel for it. If by Allah(swt), you were created as male, be thankful for what capabilities and functions you were created with and learn to improve yourself for the better.

You don't have to force preferences, otherwise it's not true. Just let the admiration freely flow from one person to the next, whoever you personally think deserves such, without thought to whether the body fits. It's okay to admire one another for various reasons, looks included, but in the end you would not be doing yourself any good if you act upon nothing but lust.

Women are fully capable of the personalities and mentalities of men. If you find a man you admire, somewhere out there you'll find a woman you can admire as much or more. It's just a diff. in bodies, and we are supposed to respect our own God-created bodies by channeling our physical affections towards an appropriate partner. Disregarding the physicality that we've been given by following nothing but carnal desires is self-centered and ignorant. You're throwing away the gift that Allah(swt) has provided: for every person there is a partner...another half...

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“And among His signs is that He created mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts.” (30:21)

“It is He Who created you from a single soul, and from it created its mate that he might take rest in her . . .” (7:189)

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You just need to find a woman of your type, but don't pressure...just let it happen by the will of Allah(swt)

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Allah(swt) knows best

Homo