I have been asked to go to China for a Friends wedding and the wife objects to it any thoughts on why?

It's an easy choice for people who aren't in your situation. You're wife likely knows what she's doing, and doesn't care. It also appears as thou she thinks she wears the boots in the relationship and can push you around.

Ask yourself how things would go if you told her that she couldn't go to some event because you weren't going. Would she not go, or would she argue about it and end up going.

There's a certain amount of common logic that some people just fail to grasp, and it seems like any reasoning with your partner will not work. In her mind, she's already decided that she cannot go, and that if you go, you'll likely sleep with someone else. It doesn't matter if this is true or not. For her, it's real. Any arguments you make with her should take this into consideration.

I'd suggest going, mostly because I hate social injustice; but you should have your own reasons for going. Tell her you're going, and her reasons for you not going are unjust, unfair, and unfounded. If she tries to argue her point by repeating her past statements, stop her and tell her she's wrong and you're going. Don't let her build up steam.

Put the onus back on her to come or not. You're going. She can come too if she wants (you would love her to come, it would make you the happiest man alive).

Your wife is being absurd. It is her decision not to go and shame on her for it. All countries have customs and pollution...come on now, that is a cop out if I have ever heard one.

It is only the right thing to do to go to the wedding and be the best man. If you will not suffer financially from this and can take the time off work, then there is no reason for this. Your friend will be hurt and upset if you do not. Also your wife will get the wicked witch of the west branding from the friends and family. Does she realize that she is acting like a child. I would not fall into her little you can't go if I don't thing. I would tell her you are going and she can be there and show support of you or she can be at home by herself and sit on her pedestal of pity and unfounded jealousy.

I hate insecure women!!!! You are going away for a few days. A time will come in your marriage when this will happen again, and she's going to have to deal with it. You are the best man, so clearly it's important to the bride and groom that you attend. This is about them, not your wife. Invite her again and make it clear that you are going with or without her to support your friend. If she's still angry, remind her that you love her and that if she trusts you, this shouldn't be a problem.

And by the way - China is an AMAZING place to visit. Her unwillingness to learn about another culture only shows how uncultured and close minded she is.

Your wife is within her own rights to refuse the invite, but she's not in the right to tell you that you can't go either. If it were a case of her not being invited I could see the issue, but this was her choice. She ought to respect you enough to let you also make your own choice. It can't be one rule for one person and another for another. You're the best man and wish to support your friend at his marriage... you're not forcing her to join you and she needs to back off and treat you like an adult.

honestly, your wife sounds like a spoiled brat on this one. if it was some legit reason like you guys would seriously go into debt over the costs of flying/staying there, yeah, i might side with your wife.

in your case though it sounds like your wife is still caught up on this other woman you never even did anything with. either that or she is really closed minded and unwilling to even give the country a chance. cause dude, i would jump at the chance to visit china if i had one. id have my **** packed and waiting by the door already

plus your the best freaking man! obviously its important to this couple that you are there!

Your wife is being unreasonable. Just because she feels like it would be a pain to travel doesn't mean that you should pull out of being best man. Assure her that you're there for your friend. It's not like she wasn't invited; tell her that she can still come with, but you are going with or without her.

I usually would side with your wife, but in this case she is being mean. You are the best man, and if she is that worried about you cheating then she should go .......Go to the wedding and have a good time....not with your friend sister lol..

Tell your wife that turds belong in the toilet not next to you in bed!

I tell you if I was asked to go to China I would be like....I'm taking a vacation...nananana na, I am getting to go shopping...nananana na (just imagine a grown woman singing and doing the cabbage patch dance) that is how I would react to getting to go to China...shute.

Your wife is being silly and selfish. I cannot believe she would not want to go. Also, pollution.....has she not been to any major US city? Customs...even though they are not yours...you should respect anothers customs and ancestory. Any adult would understand that. It sounds like she needs a little cultrual education in duty, honor and respecting ones heritage. Put her in check and go to the wedding.

Your wife is overreacting. I'm don't know what the best way to get through to her is because I don't know her, but you're going to that wedding and if I were you, I'd drag her along with me whether she liked it or not. If she doesn't like the pollution, buy her a face mask.

I would generally agree that you should not go without your wife, but she was invited and is choosing not to go on her own. I wouldn't want my husband in another country while I was home by myself... so it seems to me she should go.

But since you can't force her to accompany you, I'd say she can't force you to miss the wedding. I'm sorry that you have to make such a decision, but I'd say go to the wedding!