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how do i let her down easily?

i have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now. i really care about her, but i'm feeling like i need a break from her. all my friends have been telling me that i look tired and stressed when i'm around her, and that's true. she is very clingy, emotional, and dramatic. the crazy thing, is that she has been feeling like she might like this other guy. i kind of jumped on that and suggested that we take a break so that she could figure it out. so we're kind of in a break now, but she's still clinging to me. i feel like i need to fly away from her, but have no way to communicate my feelings to her without hurting her. i really do care about her, and when she cries i can't stand it. please, i need some advice on how to handle this.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Aww, that's quite sad.

    Break-ups and anything along the lines of a break-up are always hard.

    Just explain to her that you need some time to yourself to think and to de-stress; you could even blame the stress on friends, school, or family problems. Just don't make it seem like it's her fault until you feel you can express this to her without hurting her too badly.

  • 1 decade ago

    sorry, there is no way to break up with someone and not hurt them. You are rejecting them and rejection always hurts to some degree.

    all you can do is do it in a civil manner without humiliating them or being deliberately cruel. She is going to feel what she feels and you can't control that.

    tell her that you are feeling smothered and the relationship is no longer pleasant for you to be in and it's time for the two of you to go your separate ways. As you have said that you need space from her, don't insult her by claiming you can still be friends. Just make a clean break and move on.

    look at it this way: you're uncomfortable for a little while when you break up with her or you're uncomfortable for the rest of your life because you're too chicken to do what you need to do to break up with her.

  • 1 decade ago

    thats trickyy. it seems like you guys are probably both tired of each other which is probably why shes clinging to you so she doesnt loose youu but at the same time she likes someone else. its clearly not good for you if your feeling stressed when your around her. just be honest by saying "hey look, i really need to focus on some other things right now and you know that i really care about youuu but right now i feel like its best for us both if we just have space " .. also just mention that you really want the best for each other and you want her to be happy and etc etc. good luckkk:)

  • 1 decade ago

    Well you guys should take a brake from each other and see out things turns out. The moment will come if you know how to look. I don't know. Maybe still be friends when she leaves you so that she knows like you're not hurting or something...

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  • 1 decade ago

    Just let her know that you still love her and don't want to see her hurt, but you both need some time to figure out what you both want and what will be best for the two of you. Let her know that you need your space and you will call her when you have figured out what is best and that you're not doing it to be cruel or mean, but that you're looking out for both of your feelings.

  • 1 decade ago

    sorry, you will have to learn how to handle tears or you will be a sucker for anything a girl wants. you need to let her know, exactly how you feel and when you suggested a break you also meant time apart. sparingly crossing paths as friends that are still able to communicate without a dating relationship.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just do it, it sucks to have to break up with somebody and it never gets easier; therefore, just do it. It's normal to be sad about it and there's not really any definitive way to make it 'easier on her.'

    Be sure to let her know that you really care about her and you want her to be happy, but that it can't be with you. Tell her that you want to keep being friends with her if she wants to (but only if you mean it)

  • 1 decade ago

    you should just tell her how you really feel about her--tell her if you think that shes too clingy and you need more space. if you just hold it inside, one of these days youll feel even more horrible and stressed.

    but i dont really think that theres any way to let her down without her crying, unless she doesnt care for you strongly.

    Source(s): i had a very VERY clingy friend
  • 1 decade ago

    well i hate to break it to you but either way shes gonna get hurt. but is not like its going to be permanent.

    she will get over when the right times comes.

    so all you need to do is tell her the truth about why you dont wanna be with her.

    pretty much what you wrote will do just fine.

  • 1 decade ago

    u are both loosing interest in each other. sometimes u have to just be straight forward,even tho it might hurt.. dont forget to remind her dat u care about her,and dat u 2 have grown apart [wich includes her as well] breaking up will b better for both.- & i think shes being clingy with u coz she dont wan b alone.but thats wut life makes u feel like sometimes. xx

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