How can I tell my ex about our baby?

When i told my boyfriend we where having a baby when we where going to split up he wonted to be there. We didn't have a big fight or anything but things where keeping us from moving froward. I think that you should think long and hard about what is best for your kid. If you think that your kid needs to have him in the life then tell the dad. Just think of your kid more then you. Your kid comes first.

You should take a long hard look at your feelings here before you do anything. If part of you is scared he'll take your child away, AND the other part wants to get back with him... well that's a dichotomy you need to work out first. Basically, if you think he's the kind of man that would take your child, then you don't need to be with him.

Besides that though - it's very rare for a father to step into the picture a year or years later and try to take away a child he's never seen. And if he knew you were pregnant when you broke up and hasn't been around for his kid at all, then he probably doesn't care now to see the child.

If you want to contact him, I would start with just emailing a couple of pictures of his kid - and that's it. No long drawn-out paragraphs about how much you miss him and all that. See how he responds to just a couple of pictures.

Good luck!

He wont be seen as a legal guardian because he wasnt there for the first year, so he wont be able to take him away unless you are an aweful parent, but you sound like a good parent so it will be fine.

Maybe just call the dad and see if he is interested in meeting his son, no strings attached and meet for coffee with the baby. If it goes well then do it again, if not then you'll at least know.

Unless he has a REALLY good reason..theres no way he can take your child away from you.

If your ex knew you were pregnant & hasent got in contact with u to even try and ask about the child or anything..chances are he doesnt plan on it or just doesnt care

I would call him up and talk to him. You never know he could actually want to be involved in this childs life and just doesnt know how to do that yet

well if you think that he would be a good father then tell him. you need to think about why you and he broke up in the first place, was it your fault or his or both?is he responsible? if you are smart you will at least get child support from him well unless you are rich and don't have to worry about money. i don't understand why he broke up with you if he knew you were pregnant unless he thought that the baby wasn't his. if he knew it was his though then he is a real jerk and i would go after child support but this is something that you have to do on your own. do what your heart says

I don't think you should! He knew you were pregnant and he hasn't made any effort to call you or see how his son was doing....basically he just ran away from his problems!

I would be very worried that he would want to take him only because once he sees him, he might reconsider what he had done and then use it against you possibly that you made no attempt to contact him or send pictures and what not

I say leave it as it is (there's no emotional drama now, but later there might be)...just my opinion

if you think he would try to take him from you.. i wouldnt do it