big sister drama help! i need advice.?

You should talk to her about the problems, especially if you moving there is so that you guys can all live closer together with your parents and all. She might just feel like you're trying to rub your successfulness in her face. You might be doing it without really realizing it because you feel like your parents are always helping her so you've grown independent and so you're able to do so much more while she's always had your parents to fall back on therefore she's kinda just stayed in that safety net. Just talk to her and see how she really feels. If things are really bad, then you probably just need to avoid her and let things cool down until she sees for herself that you're not the bad guy. Good-Luck!!

You need to ignore what she is saying...if you know it's lies. It seems she has some problem around you or else you are the only one she can lash out at. I'm sure she has lots of problems that you may not be even be aware of, that's why your parents are with her. You parents know you are able to stand on your own 2 feet and get on with your life and that must be very reassuring for them. Don't move away from them..just ignore the things she is saying but continue to visit you parents, in fact keep her out of your life as much as possible. If this doesn't work for you , then move away ...remember it's your sister that has the problems .

You complain that she is bashing you; but you're doing the same thing about her.

Do what you need to do to enjoy your life. You come across as very jealous that your parents moved to OR to be near her, and you feel neglected and your feelings are hurt. That is not your sister's fault.

How she lives her life is her business. How you live your life is your business.

Trying to constantly get your parent's approval is a huge waste of your time.

My suggestion is to build a life for yourself and stop trying to live in your sister's shadow. Foster friendships, get a hobby, just get out and enjoy life and stop fretting over what other people are doing.

If you can't do that in OR, then move to another area and start fresh.

I am so sorry that you are going through so much pain. I really feel your agony through your words. Have you ever to your sister about you feel? Or question her about why she treats you the way she does? If you combat w/ her when she being mean than she has won. Confront her & let her know that what she is doing hurts you. I would also talk to your parents & see why you feel that your sister may be favored. Bringing something to one's attention makes them aware of how you feel. No one can read minds! Cheer up Pumpkin, everything will be ok :)

it's jealousy. its painful for an older sis to see her younger sis doing better in life than she is (the fact that she lives with the parents & has presumably divorced from her husband indicates her life isnt going the way she'd hoped). u say youre suffering from depression. in all likelihood,she is too. confide in her. let her know your problems & woes. that way she wont feel so threatened by u, she'll complain less about u & will be more ready to open up about her life. both of u will be happier in the long run

I've got a little sister, and most of the time it seems like my mom and dad give her loads of attention, and she can get away with murder. I don't mind because i know she doesn't do it on purpose. You really need to talk to your sister. If she's built up resentment you need to talk it out with her. It's not good for you or her to keep it all inside. Try spending time just you and her. Hope it helps. Good luck!

Sounds like Jealousy. Seeing her younger sister getting ahead with her life, while she is stuck behind is a sign of jealousy. (in my opinion!)