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I'm scared my ex will take my son, help!?
My ex and I have been apart since Sept. of 2007 and I had my son in April of last year. We hadn't spoken, but I wrote him a letter telling him I'd like him to be a part of our son's life, because I felt bad for him missing most of his first year.
My mom is now saying I should (she doesn't know I wrote him already) consult a lawyer first, that his family will try to take him from me. Tha they will make up things and mention I moved in w/ them for awhile to get him too. Now I'm scared to the point I want to cry that he'll take my son and I'll never see him again. I haven't ever done anything bad to my son and I want him safe. But I'm terrified he'll get taken from me. Did I make a mistake sending the letter?
We were never married and due to the circumstances agreed it would be best to not speak to each other when we broke up. He has not called me since then and vice versa. I don't want money from him, I just want to let his son know his dad and vice versa.
6 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
by law,if he is the natural father he has an obligation to financially take care of his child. he does not have any rights to custody unless he can prove you are an unfit mother and cannot support himself and his child. the law is on the mothers side. but your mother is correct. contact a lawyer and .....unfortunately, it will not be inexpensive or easy. he can be a jerk and test your ability to keep it together, so be prepared for anything he may say about you. hopefully, you were married and then will have legal rights--if not, good luck. people dint understand how important legalized cohabitation is. call your attorney. his family cant do anything. but he can try.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
No. The courts will be unhappy if he was providing child support and you weren't allowing him to see his son. But if you made the effort to reach out to him, you are not at fault. He could petition for custody, it could happen with any divorce where children are involved. You don't need to get a lawyer until then. The deciding factors are wether or not you have a recent criminal history, wether or not you are employed, wether or not you're receiving government assistance, ect. If you could elaborate on your situation more I could give you better advice. Courts want what's best for the child, and generally, that's the child being in both parents lives. If your husband took your son from you, that would be kidnapping, and he would go to jail.
Source(s): briefly studied family law. - 1 decade ago
Well, you didn't do a bad thing by sending the letter. Unless he can prove you unfit (drug abuse, been in jail, child endangerment) there's really not a whole lot to worry about. His family means nothing to the court system. Have y'all even divorced? you just say you've been apart since sept 07 ..
- No More AbuseLv 71 decade ago
If the father of your child is truly interested in seeing his child..then he can file in court for visitation rights and have everything done legally..when this is done..there is legal protection for the child to have limited time for the father to see the child. He need to step up to the plate if he is serious about seeing his child..I would not be going out of my way to help him..
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
No you didn't make a mistake. You did it for the well being of your son and his right to have a relationship with his father. Shame on your mom.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
His family won't have sh#t to stand on. Courts rarely take kids away from the mom unless she is a total scumbag.
