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I would like to know what should I do if I caught my husband looking at nude girls on the internet?

My husband loved me before marriage but after marriage Idid not find any chemistry between us. It was all about sex and after sex he would become a person who do not care for me. Now I recently find out that he looks nude girls and lesbians on the internet. What do I solve this problem. We have a 7 month old togetehr. Why are emotions not important for men? I am so hurt and depressed. now I know why he was not even interested inme even from the beginning days of marriage.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Porn is an addiction it deadens emotions in those who get caught up in it and makes them incapable of loving anyone even themselves just like all other addictions. That's why he's emotionally distant so it's time to get going or insist on marital counseling to save this and so he can break free from his addiction and be available to be in a loving relationship.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Confront him about it seriously and firmly.

    I know it's hard to leave the one you love, and I'm not saying you should, this could be fixed, but scare him! Give him an option. He either stops looking at filth, or you will leave him. Make him believe you will (even if you feel you won't in ur heart). After being firm, later show him how hurt you are. Make him feel guilty.

    It's a shame that men do this, and I'm sorry. They think as long as they don't cheat that it's ok. It's not always easy to confront men about things like this. He might defend himself, but back yourself up with evidence. DO NOT SCREAM OR YELL!!! Well at least try not to. By staying calm you are showing him you are in control and you can't give him reason to leave or feel that you are being overbearing. He will realize how wrong he is if you handle it right. (unless he's a real jerk) It's hard being a girl.

    All the best to you hon. I hope I helped in some way?

  • 1 decade ago

    set down talk with him, tell him he got a problem and in order to fix this problem you two both need to work together. ask him does your relationship, and family means anything to him, and if does tell him that he needs help. and tell him you will be there to help him if he really cares about you and the 7 month baby. It happens sometimes in live. you have to struggle, be strong and try to find a way to solve this problem. you know those things are addictive, he could be addicted to that, and that means he needs help you are his wife and you can help him. try making him to get counseling it help most of the times. don't just destroy your life like all these people say "dump him" it sounds easy but when you actually try to do it, it is really hard. Get counseling for him and for yourself as well, and don't just throw away all your happiness right away without trying your very best to fix it. and I think you can.

    Good luck to you be strong

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I had a boyfriend exactly like that. He was a Christan and after sex he would quote the bible to me, withdraw and not want to see or speak to me until the next time he wanted to have sex. I gave him lots of chances to appreciate me but he never did. He admitted that he was addicted to porn and constantly masturbated. I ended our relationship because I felt like a used door-mat.

    Your husband needs to appreciate you and have respect for your feelings. Teach him a lesson by keeping your legs closed until he gives you what you want.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Let me start by telling you that there is nothing wrong with him looking at the naked women on the inter net,most men live to enjoy fantasy.There is something that you can do, one day while you know that he is looking at the naked women why don't you sit at look with him,then ask him what is it that he likes about the women and if there is something that you can do so that you can be as attractive to him as they are.Then you can take it one or two steps further by asking him if there is something special that they do that he would like to try with you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My cat's breath smells like cat food.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dump him. If the chemistry is gone, and he no longer cares, end it. You deserve to be fully loved and appreciated.

  • SS
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Dump him... no other way out.

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