what if your little one is shy? please read the detail?

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My son is a smart, friendly enough and cheeky boy. To strangers who are friendly, he can be really friendly too. However, in the crowded loaded with strangers, he can be a different one, just stick with me and cries when someone approaches, while another children just keep being happy. If another child grab his toys, he would just look at his toys gone.

I understand every child is different, but it just so sad to look at him being bullied and can not stand up for himself. If I were there, it's allrite, otherwise how can he survive?

He is only 2 yrs, I don't know how to teach him to grab back his stuff. How to built up his confident?

My husband is moving to another city for 1 year, I am considering to move out with him or not.
I am so worried my son will struggling adapt with new childcare. If he is lucky enough to adapt, then he has to move again next year and struggling again, is it fair for him? Or is it better not to move with my husband eventhough it means my son can't be close to his father most the time?

I &lt;3 tea · Accepted Answer

Move with your husband. The child needs a father more than the childcare you have him in. Though when he is in a large crowd or gets bullied don't comfort him so much. Like if he clings to you in a crowd don't pick him up. I think he will figure out the bullying on his own. Unless it continues throughout elementary school it's normal. Children are selfish. I think its a good thing he doesn't do anything back when the toys are taken away. Even though he is sad this shows some of his personality. I think instead of having a brat to raise your son is going to be very sweet and caring, which he will be bullied for that when he is younger, but in the long run it is better.

Tracy · Answer

He sounds like a mellow soul.  I would encourage him to assert himself when playing with other kids...but I'm assuming he hasn't reached the "mine" phase yet.  If he goes through that no one will be able to take ANYTHING from him. 

I do understand your concern about childcare though.  The thing about kids though is that they easily adapt and maybe a new childcare will help your son gain the skills needed to assert himself more.  I'd research some child care centers in the area your husband is moving to and ask about what they teach children (manners, free play, etc)

ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE · Answer

a chid of 2yrs old will adapt any situation,,hes stilll very young, go for it if u want
and for the being shy, unconfident,,, my 1st born was exactly like that,,,, and my 4th would fight with her bros and sis from 14 months,, she would snatch her toys back and even smack them when needed,, they learn from their siblings
your lil one isnt exposed to all that yet so hes very innocent, he will learn, my eldest is still most unconfifent [age 12] to me i think its how she always was from little
wheras my next 3 grew faster as they had an older bro or sis to look up to and copy, lol

good luck xxxxxxx

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