Waking up my wife for work every day sucks. Help please!?

Talk with her when you're not waking her up. Like on the weekend, or whenever her night off is. Maybe she's stressed at work. And just listen to what is going on with her at the moment. She may not have anyone to vent to, and a lot of times, that can really create a lot of tension in relationships.

If she still refuses to accept she's being a b***h, tell her you can't wake her up every evening for work because you're sick of fighting over it. If she can't wake up, she can deal with the concequences.

Personally, I don't like the alarm clock because it rattles me on the inside. It takes a little time to get calm again. So I don't use it.

If this is the same for her, then use it! What did she do before you got married?

If she doesn't think its a problem, then don't wake her anymore. When she wakes up late, she doesn't have any time to blame you because she has to rush to get out of the house. When she gets back she might be pissed but she will have to admit that she created that situation for herself.

When people are not appreciative of gratuities, they don't need them anymore. It is the same when giving a waiter/tress a tip. If they complain that the tip isn't big enough knowing that they will get a paycheck anyway and not considering that the person giving the tip may have given all they had, then just as they were bold enough to voice the complaint, I am bold enough to take whatever tip they had and put it right back in my pocket!

I have a hard time waking up too, even with alarm clocks so my post is going to be a lil different from the other ones. Um, my boyfriend is former Marine and used to wake me up in this harsh fatherly tone. I was NOT pleased, as I am not a morning person anyway. He now gives me a peck and says Rise and Shine or something to that effect which is fine.

Have you told your wife calmly later in the day how much of an issue it is? The morning would probably not be the best time. Surely if she's reasonable you can work something out without your having to refuse to get her up at all. That seems extreme (take it from a person who has probs hearing alarm clocks too.) Hopefully you can work it out. Don't let it fester but I don't think the cold approach is going to work.

PS If this is your worst problem, feel lucky! :)

Instead of just telling her that you aren't going to wake her anymore maybe bring it up in a discussion because if you just tell her and she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong then this more than probably cause an argument. Try to get her to see how the way she treats you affects you and be logical and calm.

I am not a particularly good person in the morning either but I am aware I am a b*tch to wake and will apologise later if I feel I've been too bad.

My Dad's approach when I was a teenager was to try to wake me until I swore at him and then leave me. I learnt pretty quick not to be to nasty or I would end up missing whatever it was I needed to do that day.

Hope this helps.

Perhaps it would work better to have a clock radio tuned to a nice music station, or even the news. The raucous buzz of most alarm clocks is not a pleasant way to wake up. If the clock radio is placed so she'll have to get out of bed to shut it off, that might help her wake up on time. Same with having a light on a timer. It's a problem -- some people seem to get their best sleep just before it's time to wake up. I'm one of them.

From personal experience, I can't sleep well if I know I have to depend on somebody else remembering to come and wake me up. I set my own alarm clock. It has a nine-minute snooze alarm which I use about one time out of ten.

As a last resort, is there any possibility that she could work a better shift? I know lots of parents have to tag-team because they can't afford to pay for child care, but your situation seems to be taking an awful toll on your home life.

I feel so sorry for you. This wonderful man that I know and his wife goes through the same thing as you. Only difference is there are eight children. This poor caring man is disabled and he trys to get up and help the children get breakfast and ready for the school bus. He tries to wake his skinny wife up and she gets out of bed, hitting him and cursing at him. She is a Meth freak. She tells the children that she is gonna sleep for a while and then won't get out of bed until in the afternoon. This poor man is neglected, abused, and over worked from being both Father and Mother. The children are beginning to resent this old rag, because of how she treats them and their Father. When she wakes up, she flys into a rage and even socks the poor Father. She is as mean as the day is long. I feel for you. I wonder if she is a drug user ?

My advice to you is: When she is up and about, and will speak with you, tell her your fed up with your life. She is making your life misserable. Let her know that she needs to make a plan to wake up on her scheduled time. It is her duty , not yours. These selfish women will not fix their own problem, but keep dumping on the man. I told this man that I know , he should stick her in the *** with a large darning needle. Or get a big bull whip and crack her across the ***. But then she would get you for assult. These women are labeled as : Selfish, all for themselves, slobs, and I would not cater to her. Most women blame the man. Will get up in a mans face and act like a man, but when she throws the first punch and you defend yourself she will turn into the meanest ***** around. Call the Police and place all the blame on you. Many men Suffer from what is called a *****. Once a ***** , always a *****.

When the boy gets older , do like the Navajho do, Walk away and don't look back. Not many men would want her.

well first you a good man but truth is most people bein woke up or waking up are not morning people so to speak and ask the kids to keep it down some let mom sleep explain that it is important an also take on a few more chores so she can get in bed a bit earlier more sleep = less restless ness and easier to get up try an make her day a tad bit easier see if it helps and try even better sleep music to help her rest better the more she rest the better she will get

WOW! This exact same situation happened with me and my husband for a long time. Since he had a flexible work schedule, he would typically sleep later than me and ask me to wake him up before I left the house in the morning. Well, I tried and tried and tried to find a way to wake him up without him yelling at me while half asleep, completely ignoring me, and even hitting me once accidentally while still asleep.

I finally became so frustrated with the situation that I told him that if he wanted to be awakened in the morning to call his mommy and ask her to do it. He didn't think this was too funny. But, really...there's no excuse for mistreating some who is doing you a favor.

I recommend you talk to your wife and let her know that you're not going to be able to assist her in waking up anymore.Let her know you love her and help her put in place whatever tools she needs to take responsibility for waking herself up.

Our compromise was to get a dual alarm clock. I set it for my wake-up time and he sets it for his. Most of the time, it works out well. Sometimes, however, he oversleeps or turns it off and falls back asleep. I know it frustrates him that I won't simply wake him up, but if our marriage is to remain healthy, he's just going to have to take on this responsibility himself.

Good Luck!

The Coach

Tell her as nicely as possible that in order to save your sanity and not create a daily fight that she needs to set an alarm clock for work and that you are not going to wake her up anymore.

Alternatively, you can just get an alarm clock and set it to wake her up every day. When she asks about it - just say that this is how you are now going to wake her up so as to stop all the fighting.

I know how you feel my husband is the same way.. As a women point of you i would knock her out early with love in the bedroom.. After that she will want to go to sleep. I told my husband that i wasn't going to wake him up no more because he is cranky really bad.. I finally set the alarm for him and he wakes up just fine... Good luck