telling wife about affair?

I think telling the wife was nothing more than you being vengeful/spiteful. It served no purpose other than to stirring up a hornets nest. The truth is...they will most likely reconcile and you will still be bitter.

You didn't get out...he dumped you.

You did the right thing,no one likes to be left in the dark,its not fair.She had to know the truth so she can make her own decisions.I have a good deal of respect for you,your brave.Also don't get upset by the people calling you stupid on here,only the cheaters think that its a bad idea to tell the spouse,you did good,now finish the job and break all contact with this loser

you wanted him,just wasn't women enough to get him,anybody can get false document to keep screwing you,he is not sick and twisted,you are the one that got use,mother told me when a man mess off on his wife he look for a women weak that is willing to give in and believe what ever is said to get you in bed,and to be honest after reading this it's still true,no married man when leave there home for those like you,you did get out when you did,he put you out and left you where he found you adn that on the street,you ask for an answer so here it is rather like it are not it is the truth.

Yeah best thing is to just let it be. Don't take him back if he comes a knocking. Been there and done that now I am just trying to figure out this divorce thing. And I have been on both ends as well, I had a committed man telling me that he was single...............long story but what you did by telling his wife wasnt neccassarily a bad thing.....you were being told something and believed what he was saying just as his wife.....though they had a happy marriage. Move on...find someone who is going to be honest....real love is based off of honesty

I don't really feel sorry for what happened to him. Assuming you're being honest that you don't want him for yourself, I don't think you're a bad person either. I do feel really bad for his wife but that was his screwup, not yours.

But as you can see, it was such a dumba$$ move for you to see a "going to be separated (honest!)" man in the first place. Tell the next guy to call you when the divorce is final.

Sick and twisted......so instead you helped ruin that marriage too??? Are you okay? Are you hearing yourself???

You made sure that his marriage was on the rocks!!!! I really don't believe your innocence story.

So you wrecked someone else's life and you feel better.

He lied to you for a month, and you got your feelings hurt. Poor baby. He's not sick and twisted, you are. He was just getting free nooky, you dope.

Seems to me you tried to be a homewrecker and it back fired on you.

You got what was coming to you.Just remember Karma is a B**** and you never know when she's coming.

Wrong to have told her. Getting back at him?

Move on. Forget it. Cannot be put together again. He was a jerk too.

He is sick and twisted???? Wow....I cant believe you would want to hurt another woman like that. You suck.