My husband, who I love very much has asked me for a divorce...?

man that is rough. I suggest seeing a counselor together and if he won't go then go by yourself. the chances of your marriage surviving without professional help are not good.

Sorry to hear this. I don't really have much advice but I'll try...

He may just need time out. Give him as much space as possible without mentioning the divorce, after a week or so if hes still asking for a divorce ask for a decent reason and why he can't be young again with you.

I suggest if the talk doesn't go well with him to seek a marriage councelor before going through with a divorce, tell him to do this for your family (the children).

After that if its still divorce, then go with it. Move on because you are still young and I'm sure you'd make some other, more appreciative, man happy.

Im so sorry. That must hurt right through the middle of your soul. You didnt see this coming did you? You thought you would grow old together and have a fairy tale ending. You cant make someone love you or be faithful to you. This society values youth and many find mid life to be a time when they feel panicky because they realize they too are mere mortals. Follow your heart. You know this man better than anyone. You know what you need to do. Trust those instincts. Be brave and do the hard things that you know you need to do. Above all love yourself and your children. He is gambling not only with the loss of you but those children will be forever changed by his choice.

GOod luck sweetie and hang in there. you will survive this and you will be ok.

Wow! You are getting some really weird advice here...

You mention that he's merely going through ANOTHER mid life crisis. Does this mean that you you're wife and family #2???

If so, you're already history. He's an immature teenager who doesn't like getting old. Do you want to be married to a boy or a man? Either help him see that he is being irresponsible to his family or kick his sagging *** to the curb. I'm willing to bet that he already has a little twinkie on the side who has campaigned to be Mrs. Loser #3. Let her have him. You really don't need your kids learning from his example. It's a lot easier for kids to go through this when they're young. Each year it gets worse and worse for them, so if it's going to happen, do it soon.

Don't go for any trial separation. That's not going to help. It never does.

Whether he is having another woman in mind?

You need not give him a Divorce. If you don't give, he cannot get.

Stay put and observe him for some time.

May be his brain is not working properly.

Men think about only about sex and nothing else.

Are you not cooperative with your husband?

Have you discussed the problem with him?

Take the help of some senior persons from your relatives and friends and have a group discussion and try to solve this problem.

or take legal advise how to solve this.

But come what may, never agree to divorce.

or get him proper medical treatment.

or take him to a psychologist.

Do something to bring him to senses.

Tell him you wouldn't consider it without counseling or knowing why he feels this is what he wants and if his other midlife crisis ties into it. You may have to show him what drew him to you in the first place. Or maybe a trial separation is needed to show him what life would be without you or your love and support. But if he really wants to leave, it will just make you miserable trying to hang on.

oh wow, sorry to hear you got this handed to you. my only thought would be to find time to spend with him alone (we have 2 little ones, so i know how precious/impossible getting "time alone" is), to have the chance to really investigate the issue. you say you don't think he wants a divorce, either -- maybe there is some other issue that, if it got resolved, would take the divorce idea off the table. ??

there's a cool, research-based book i refer to in times of weirdness, it's called the seven steps for making marriage work, by john gottman. maybe it would have something helpful for your situation (his main message is: work on the things that you can change/compromise on, learn to manage the deep big things you can't, and avoid the deadly "horsemen" of sarcasm, stonewalling, etc.)

good luck!!!

I'm so sorry ( opens arms reaching out to hug you ) I would ask him to separate for 6 months before making a final decision and see what happens hopefully he will have a change of heart. Good luck !!

You can't beat a dead horse...if your husband is insistent on getting a divorce...then so it will be. The best thing you can do is focus on the new life that leaves you in and make the best of it.

I agree with Kaytee, watch the movie Fireproof, its a beautiful movie, and it might help save your marriage, and also buy the book, its called The Love Dare.