I'm going through the emptiness phase now, having broken up a relationship recently.?

Only time heals... It takes some six months, it takes others two weeks.

In the meantime, get out of the house... Go out with friends. See movies, visit new places, try new things... Try to live your life. The absolute worst thing you can do is just sit at home and dwell on the subject... Maybe you'll even meet a new guy at some point while you're out having fun.

Live your life and have fun doing it! Life is really too short to be depressed...

Good luck.

I hit a downward spiral years ago when I broke up with the man I thought I was going to marry.

It took several months before my confidence returned, and it is always a struggle emotionally to have to go through a breakup.

Keep your chin up though! Life WILL get better.

You may not feel like your normal self right now - that is okay. It is normal to mourn a relationship and feel sad about it. You are not expected to suddenly be the same happy person you were when you were in a happy relationship.

The good thing is that you can learn from this. Always in life, we can look back on things that have happened, and learn more about yourself, and about what kind of relationship you were in.

The reasons you broke up - were they because you were just unsuited, or did you annoy him, or was he unstable etc. These reasons can help you know the kind of person you want in the future, or help you see what weaknesses you can turn into strengths in your own character.

If you're feeling empty - try replacing that with getting a pet, starting a sport, doing something new which will divert your attention in thinking about your ex, and make you feel positive about doing something that you enjoy instead.

You WILL feel better - just keep plodding on! Also - getting a new haircut and new outfit does wonders. Catch up with some old friends if you can too, to lift your spirits - but don't sit glumly all evening and talk about how much you miss him and wonder what went wrong. Your true friends will KNOW that, but won't want you talking all night about it.

Your happy self will return - whether you find a new man or not, just give it time. It really does heal all wounds!

forget about the 6 months syndrome, it will just bring you down. Typically though there are 5 stages of grief (loss). On the plus if your following it text book your next stage is acceptance :D You WILL be happy again. I find it helpful to speak to all the people i know who have had their heartbroken, never thought they would be happy with anyone ever again, and then they met their recent bf/husband etc and they are even better than the ex. It was love, and it's gone, of course it will hurt, and that's okay and normal. Instead of thinking how great he is, think okay well it would be nice to be taken out for a change or to be spoiled or someone who shows more pda's. Trust me, you'll be happy soon. He hasn't tooken anything away from you, your still the same person, and people don't see you any differently. Try to keep busy, see your friends and catch up with those that you've lost contact with. See more of your family. Actually although it hurt like hell, after my big heart break i actually became soo much closer to my family.

Men are a dime a dozen, your health is worth it's weight in gold. Listen to the counselor, if you're over it in six months that's great, but don't set your heart on that target, it may take longer.Like fingerprints we're all different.

Once you put this split behind you, and start with a clean slate, you're going to be Miss popularity. Your attitude, your personality , and your confidence will be restored and shining bright for all to see. Everyone will see the change .

You can't hide happiness.

If you want to start dating again, I'm sure there will be a lineup of handsome bachelors waiting for you. There is no ties to hold you down girl, you're free, so, good or bad go out there and do your thing!

Good Luck - God Bless

Think of this period as an opportunity for you to have some 'me' time. I mean, sit down on your own for a bit, start to learn about yourself. True freedom comes from being comfortable with who you are alone with. Love who you are when nobody is around. Depending on somebody else for your happiness implies that you don't love yourself enough, or you don't have the faith to see your potential to make yourself happy. Only you can decide whether you are happy or sad by percieving external events, things and people as good or bad. Think about yourself for a bit, I bet there's a lot you don't know. Relationships are beautiful, ever more so when you love both the people in it. People come and go from life, but you can ultimately guarantee on yourself being there to the end. Why aim all of your love everywhere else? Now, get out there and be happy.

I share your sentiments and know how you feel... in fact I just broke up with my girlfriend last night... the girl that i love so much and who I was about to propose to at the middle of the year...

I'm hurting too deep down inside with emotional outburst; unstable moods and tears; the feeling of emptiness; the feeling as though everything and everyone has turned their backs on me.

Fact is that I know that all these emotions and feelings that I'm going through now is a process that I have to go through to be a stronger person.

I know deep down inside you are wanting to break free from all this... and I agree with you if you are saying: "it's not easy". But have faith, it take alot of courage to let go and move on... sure it will take abit of time but eventually you will get there... some people takes 2 weeks... some takes years... but i believe that you will be fine sooner than you think.

In the meantime... just don't think about that person and invest alot of time on yourself and your friends.

My heart and blessing for you.

i think youll be ur happy self all over again, just watch sum comedy movies and hang with ur friends. The best way for u to get over it, is keep urself busy.Thats pretty much it imo, keep busy, and do postive things, help others, it will get ur mind off of urself.

well unless 6 months now means 'forever' no it will never blow over!!!

and yes you will be your happy self again, fully, with or without a man

Of course you will!!!!!!!!!!!

Go out and start living, have fun, meet up with friends, get a few new hobbies..

You can't live your life in the past, live it well and smile lots...

hang in there. it's different for everyone. i've been broken up for 5 years now and still wonder when i'll feel better again. deep ugly abuse is real.