why does he go back to her?

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Take it from me. Get out while you still can. It's one thing when they are talking about things other than their child. It's another when those things are you. For one you are no concern of his ex-wife, unless it's concerning how it affects the kid. He has no business discussing you with her and she especially has no business asking or putting her lil two cents in. This is making too much room for the devil. Not to get religious but it's just a saying. In other words he's got too much oppertunity and by letting this go on you are setting yourself up for disaster. I watch this happen all the time and have had something like this happen to me. I'm tellin you, this is not gonna end pretty unless you make a cutoff somewhere. And he's a habitual liar too? You need to lose this guy quick. If he can lie at all that's a really bad sign. Did you ever think that when he tells you all those horrible things about his ex wife maybe it's what he really did? 9 times out of 10 with habitual liars that's the case. You deserve way better. Your spouse should be someone you can trust. If there's no trust you got nothing. If your husband has anything to say about you, he should address that to you not anybody else. How can you get married and have poor communication?

In the end it's really up to you. I hope you make the right decision for the sake of your happiness.

You do not want to marry anyone who is a habitual liar. Things most likely will never get any better and you would end up being sorry that you were married. The man is not supposed to be telling his ex wife anything about you. What the two of you do is not any of her business and you need to end it with the man. An habitual liar always lie but they don't see anything wrong in what they do. When a person tells lies you will have to check each time to see if what they are saying is the truth or a lie. I am also married to an habitual liar and I can't trust anything that he tells me.

why would you marry a liar and someone who talkes about you to an ex wife.That is just creepy.Do they talk about how you two have sex or how thier sex was better.You get what i am saying.If he is paying her phone bill it is probably in order to keep track of who she talks with and that means he still cares about her.Yes they have a child but if they are chatting up a storm and the child isnt the only topic of conversation then he is twisted.I would run,run far away.He may have helped you out of a abusive relationship but you are in a emotional abusive relationship.If he is a habitual liar then he is also lying to you.I would not marry him.I would dump his butt and let him get back with his ex. Although he may not want to marry her again he sure as hell doesnt want her out of his life.He still cares about her and who is to say he hasnt messed around on you with her,afterall he is paying her phone bill!! That is a personal item.She must be doing something.I dont care if they have a kid together, does the kid have a cell phone? if not then there is no reason for him to be paying it. he is suppose to be there for the kid not helping her personal expendures

Gawd, I went through this just a few years ago. I am still with the man now. I did call off the wedding though. He was still sharing his cel plan with the exwife, she was still dropping off his bills to be paid, they were calling one another all the time...even at 7am!! This went on for two years after I moved in with him. Of course I was nagging for him to cut the ties with her except where kids were concerned. He didn't see it my way til my exhusband and I finally started getting along so I was able to share some bills with him, call each other all the time, etc All of a sudden my man decided it wasn't such a good idea to be such great "friends" with the ex...how it causes such feelings of jealousy and no one can make two ppl happy so they best be making the one they LIVE with happy first! I even took him to couples therapy and he got to hear it from an unbiased person to set some boundaries! He had to chose between making his x happy or making me happy. No more sneaking off to sporting events together, test driving cars together, changing her oil, her moms oil, fixing her car, etc. he didn't even change MY oil or fix any of MY cars...when he put up some boundaries she went from nice to very crazy mean. Held the kids from him, wouldn't tell him about their kids events...she wanted him to want her. It was important for her to think she was more important than I was to him. When I made him show with his actions that I was more important she did exactly what I knew she would...jealous crazy woman. She didn't "want him" but she didn't want any one else to have him either. She wanted him at her beck and call. When that ended and the extra money ended...she snapped. Now she hates his guts. AND I mean HATES his guts! She was using him for every thing she could get her hands on! Including having him help her move!! It's been nice with OUT her for the past 2 years out of 6!!! Depends on how much work and hurt you can deal with...if he doesn't put up the boundaries...LEAVE him. He is still too much in love with the X and shouldn't be playing with your feelings. There is a man out there who is OVER his ex and would love to be with YOU. Good lucki!!

if he is a liar, i would never marry him, as for his ex, sometimes after people split up they are better friends then then when they were together. they must be very close to be able to talk like this, i would feel disrespected. why does he still need her in his life, on a friendship basis, i can understand if they are talking about their child.

Why would you want to marry someone you say is a habitual liar. If he is lying now he will lie later and about bigger and worst things if he is not already.

They may not talk about the baby because that shows me how much he cares about their son. I truly believe that you mean nothing to him because if you meant something to him, he would not go back to her and would stay with you. Plus he would quit talking to her if you were special to him. He makes it look like she means the world to him. I would find me another man. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck.

It sound to me there pretty good friend and could reconcile there marriage,And then you will be left with nothing,so no dont marry him if he is that close with his ex..B/C you will always feel like the 2nd in his life!

Sounds like are very close and have a good friendship.

Sounds like you don't trust him and probably never will. Paying her phone may be part of their child support/ alimony agreement. Have you bothered to ask him why he pays her phone bill.

I think you should get out of this relationship. It doesn't sound like it's for you.