My best friend (the one i came out to and lost my gay virginity to!) has a problem with me because I'm gay??!?

1. You said you got this second hand. Do you know for certain your friend said this?

2. Since you came out to your friend last summer have you told anyone else you are bi?

3. If so, did you tell anyone you had sex with your friend?

4. If so, this may have gotten back to her and she is denying it for her own reason, possibly not wanting anyone to know she is bi, thus her statement about having a problem with you because your gay.

5. She may have only been in a phase of curiosity of which so many teens go through while in puberty. She may have enjoyed and even promoted sexual relations with you, but has since realized it was just a phase.

6. Why don't you try and talk with her in private and ask her if she's actually said this about you and how she feels about why things have changed about being your friend since she also admitted to you about having girl crushes and initiated the first sexual contact with you as well as having other sexual contacts with you in the past. Why are you so different than her. Why she would say anything to anyone about you since she's done the same thing. If she's decided she's not gay and interested sexually in girls why would that make a difference to your friendship with you. She doesn't have to be sexually interested in you to be your friend. It could be the same as before you came out to her; you are the same person and will respect her without sex.

ARGH! Please don't out her. Her spreading rumors about you is a huge invasion of your privacy. Don't stoop to her level by doing the same thing.

As far as her behavior, the other posters could be right. She could be in denial. I'm also wondering if perhaps she has romantic feelings for you that she doesn't think you reciprocate? (You did say that you don't find her sexually attractive.) It's a long shot, but if you we're close friends, maybe she's picking up that signal from you. Or it could even be both.

Anyway, you'll never know for sure unless you talk to her. If she turns you away, then you know that it's time grieve for the lost friendship and move on to friendships with people who are more mature, open-minded, honest.

Best of luck!

she sounds like she is confused herself and is trying to get away from you because maybe she doesn't like the idea of likeing girls anymore. she could have realized that she was straight and all that she did was just experimenting. i seriously say to leaver her alone. if she doesnt want to be bothered with you dont force urself into her life. seems hard but as you get older your gonna lose friends and make new ones. if she is a true friend she will come around because she is pobably going through something. in the mean time dont dwell on it because you could be missing out on friendships with other ppl.

She may never had said this . But if she did - she may have conflicts or guilt over something that was positive . This is what a gay hating society does to some peoples minds -

Wow, that does seem upsetting. I think the only way to figure this one out is to get her alone and talk to her. After all, you're only hearing rumors at this point. You need to get the whole truth from her and tell her how you feel.

She got scared...She was afraid of crossing the line from experimentation in to full lesbianism. Lots of people experiment and end up being straight either from societal pressure or actual orientation. It's her own fears keeping her away from you. Read the Rubyfruit Jungle...

Ok well isn't she a lesbian (or at least bisexual)? That would seem a little weird for HER not like YOU if she is a lesbian herself! It seems like you got misinformation maybe...

But if that is true then you don't want to be her friend anyways. A true friend doesn't judge someone based on their sexual orientation. She is not worth your time.

Wow she sounds like a major jerk. =( Maybe she feels weird about what happened between you two. I think you should sit her down and talk to her about all this. Ask her why she's not talking to you, then you can ask her why she's mad you're gay.

Maybe she heard a rumor about you and her? I hope everything works out. If you need to talk more about it you can instant message me at xx_emo_chickxx@yahoo.com

SHES GOING THRU DENIAL

Maybe she found Jesus. Just out her.