Can't get a girlfriend, asked a while ago?

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Years past, I was a chubbier fellow, mellow guy, but looks do matter, and I understood that. I had/have plenty of friends, but the dating scenario never took flight for me.

I'm almost 17 now, I got into decent shape, slender and fit. And I have noticed changes, such as girls actually flirting with me here and there. It's nice to see that my opportunities have opened, but now how do I take them?

I'm still stuck on the part where I ask them on a date and all, I'd rather just flirt with them and maybe have em' hint it to me.

Last time I asked this question people said just ask em' it builds character, well I have, and the last time was about a year ago. I did have something (kind of) with this girl. She was just a really confused person and I don't believe she really liked me, I was merely and output. I did have another girl three months ago tell me she thought I was cute, we didn't follow up on anything but it did raise my self-esteem I'll admit. 

I have been rejected 11 times, and that's part of why I don't ask anymore. I'd love to be in a relationship, but then I again I guess I'm coping without one like I always have. Still, this can't go on forever, and I'm damn tired of waiting when friggin' tards in my school have girlfriends. 

How can I tell if a girl is truly interested, because in the past I have had multiple instances where I was being led on, which is because those girls I was after must've had that kind of personality.

Bottom line, how do I make sure they are real and are really interested? I think that's my real question. I'm also tired of becoming the friend because they just broke out of a relationship and they were getting a kick out of talking to me, then suddenly when a relationship popped up, I find myself empty handed after months of time. 

Really, I'm tired of this crap. I'm a friendly guy, cannot be terrible looking, talk to girls as friends fine, even flirt a littlle (touching their arms, giving them a quick hug (kind of like an awww hug) For example: After she dropped the football I tossed to her, in P.E, she made a sad face as in to say *darnit! /cry in a joking way* and I give her a little hug as if to say aww its ok. 

Also I get along with people fine. Well-known (popular) kids, gamers (nerds), goths, musicians, really just about anyone that gets along with me. I might have four people in a school of three thousand that dislike me. 

/sigh

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Listen up, the problem is the WAY in which you request dates.  High school doesn't make much sense to begin with and trust me, women make more sense afterward.  They have to feel totally comfortable around you and that means listening before speaking as well as a VERY calm attitude, we're talking half asleep (but still happy).  If you do these things and are upfront about wanting to date this girl, you will get a date.  Lastly, girls are more likely to date you if they don't think it's a big deal so try and make it very casual.

? · Answer

what bothers me is that you sound like such an awesome nice guy yet you post these things up here, and the bastards get all the women.

Im not going to tell you to be a bastard because thats not you, but the right one will come along beleive me, you are only 17, very very very young!

Sometimes acting too interested turns us women off :p sooo maybe when you like a girl and she likes you, dont act too keen and then jump in and go for it as though it was unexpected and see what happens

Anonymous · Answer

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loser · Answer

I think that you don't relize it but you still act self conscious. it takes a while do gain confidence because you always see your self as the old you. I used to be pretty ugly a couple years ago but now i'm good looking I'd say and I still don't have the confidence inside me. :)

Anonymous · Answer

dude just because you have been rejected doesn't mean you should stop trying, there are way TOO many girls out there, also yea alot of girls will lead you on, and its really tricky to know if they want you or they are just messing with you, your still young, don't even trip bro, just keep lookin' before you know it youl get er

Mr. Magoo · Answer

Follow the numbers.  Ask out 100.  You will get a hit.  It's pot odds.

Kotie · Answer

Your first mistake is, LOOKS MATTER and are VERY IMPORTANT. (shallow but true). Not saying you're not attactive just letting you know. Secondly, it may be your approach. One thing about us women, we hate to be ignored. Don't get cocky, but don't spend all your time in their faces. When they flirt with you, don't flirt back. It'll make them think. They'll go home and say "I was talking to (your name here) and he looked at me wierd" I know it sounds crazy, but women are crazy. I know I'm one of them.

Anonymous · Answer

you must be really lonely to write an essay about your relationship. sad sad sad.

Anonymous · Answer

yea

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