How do people in dysfunctional families escape them?

By finding a mentor outside of their families & becomg more like them. It's kind of like what would jesus do except "what would _____ be like?" for example...shocked? Like why are the problems even happening? Tell them straight up what they need to do to change. If one guy is constantly needing money, don't give him any. Tell him to get a job or tell him to just don't spend money he doesn't have. Or tell him how to save money. He needs to get independent.

If the father is abusive to the mother, tell her she's worth more than that and she needs to get out of that. For her to press charges or seek help or whatever.

Cycles can be broken only when something else gets in the way from it happening again.

They often escape by moving as far away as possible.

An answering machine would benefit you greatly so they won't think you are always available in an emergency. You are obviously the one who takes care of problems and you need to make yourself less available and not as easy to reach. Their behavior will not stop as long as they have you to bail them out. They are forcing you to be their co-dependent. You don't deserve a life full of such turmoil. Distance yourself in any way you can and they will have to learn to save themselves and be adults.

strange, yet no longer dysfunctional. I grew up in a typical suburban homestead with a loving relatives and our honest proportion of drama. My mum and dad taught absolutely everyone to ask questions and the thank you to define solutions contained in the direction of the scientific technique.

You seem to have done well in a really difficult series of problems. If you really want to escape, change your telephone number and don't give it to anyone in your family or anyone your family knows.

That worked for awhile for me, but I had to contact my family, since we love each other. However the family learned not to dump their problems on me.

Best wishes

move or something

telll him you cant afford to give him the money anymore

if they get upset explain you have a life too and theyr adults

your not the parent

sometimes familys get too edependant and when you do something one time its like you can do it everytime

good luck