why does it hurt her?

It's possible you're too large, or her vagina is too narrow. Some women have what's called a pediatric vaginal opening. Roughly speaking, this means that after a certain age, their vagina stops growing, and is not as elastic as it should be. This can create real problems during child birth, and some women with this medical condition can't even give birth naturally, and require a C-section.

There is treatment for this condition. As one person mentioned a water-based lube is recommended, such as KY or Astroglide, and you can also slowly stretch the area.

If you meet with a licensed sex therapist, they will prescribe devices called dilators. These resemble sex toy, and they come in a set that gradually increase in diameter. If you wanted, you could even try some commercial sex toys, and try very narrow ones, and then gradually increase to wider ones, until she's stretched.

The problem is, that she's may not be as large or as elastic, and a dilator can slowly widen the opening, so it's not as painful. Once she's properly opened, it wont be as painful.

Another thing she can do is Kegel exercises. The vagina has muscles in it, and just like any other muscle, if you exercise it, you'll strengthen it and you'll also gain better muscle control through practice. If she strengthens her vaginal muscles and gains better control, she'll feel less pain and have better endurance.

It may be that her Bartholin Gland, which is responsible for vaginal lubrication is either inactive, or is low-production. Again, a water-based lube can be used in place of natural lubrication. It should always be water-based, because an oil-based lube will degrade condoms and make them ineffective at protecting against pregnancy, STDs or STIs.

If you are just really large, then you may not be sexually compatible with her. That's unfortunate, but it may be the case. The average man is between 5-7" and anything larger than that is considered big. If she's already narrow and unable to handle an average-sized man, than it may be difficult for her to handle you.

It may also have to do with the duration of sex. Most sex only lasts 12-20 minutes, even though the average woman needs at least 20 minutes to achieve orgasm. If your sex is lasting over half an hour, then it may cause soreness, because of friction. The vagina is lined with layers of mucus membrane. Yes, there are many layers, unlike the lips and anus, which only have one layer of mucus membrane, but you can still tear some of these layers with enough friction. If you are using a spermacide then it's even more likely she'll be hurt. Spermacide actually has microscopic hooks on it, and they tear into the mucus membrane causing abrasions (small cuts). This is why some people say that spermacide burns. That burning feeling are actually abrasions.

You should also both be checked for any possible STDs or STIs. This includes endometriosis. Any of these could also cause pain. I'm suggesting them, because you did say that you had unprotected sex.

I'd recommend gradually stretching, more lubrication, more foreplay, and possibly shorter duration for actual penetration, if too much stamina is an issue.

Best of luck in life and love. :-)

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I have the same problem with my bf but its bc i get tight really fast and hes very big down there... it hurts during intercourse during some positions but if shes hurting after then you should take her to the dr.

You probably need more lubrication. Go buy some KY jelly. If I have sex with my man and I'm not wet enough it is irritated afterwards too. Or just make sure she is really aroused before penetration, like give her oral sex. Tell her to thank me later LOL

If she was a virgin before you started having sex, it might be taking a while for things to...open up. If it's been a few months, she might want to discuss it with her dr. Maybe you're just to BIG for her! Take more time getting her warmed up...more foreplay is always appreciated! Flavored lube is always fun!

Hope this helps....

depends on how many times she has had sex before u..

did u take her virginity

or she just gets dry down there and needs lube

She should go to her gy. She could have something wrong and not know it. Better safe then sorry!

Is she getting dry during? If so that could have something to do with it.

More foreplay.

More lube.

And more attention so as to not hurt her.

Of course you can check with a doctor as well.

She should go visit a Doctor...Most likely she has a cyst that makes it very uncomfotable for sexual intercourse....They are easily treated by the way.......

try getting her a little wet first she is probably to dry and so it causes her pain as an after affect...