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i don't know what to do about my brother in-law coming over?
my husband and i have been together for over 6 years and his brother has been the same way since i met him, he is homeless, everyone and i mean everyone has tried to help him and he keeps messing up. he stayed with us for about 6 months and he had a job for about a month, we found burnt spoons from him using crack under my roof where my children live, he peed in our water pitcher, he had people come over looking for him (not nice people) we tried and it didn't work, i don't even want him to come over and spend the night anymore but i feel so bad, like if I'm being a bad person, i don't know what to do, every now and then my hubby will just randomly say that he wont have him over anymore and now he says he's having him spend the night on saturday, i don't know what to do. please help :(
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- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Don't let come over. It's harsh, but clearly he isn't capable of change. And you have KIDS? I would be scared to death if my parents let a homeless person who was smoking crack into the house, seriously. Talk to your husband, that's not right. He needs help! Him coming over and ruining everything is not help.
- 1 decade ago
Your brother in law has some major issues going on and rescuing him like your husband wants to isn't going to help him. Addicts have no reason to change if they never have to face the consequences of their actions. If your husband wants to really help his brother, he should help get him into a treatment center where he can reclaim his life. I wouldn't want this type of person around my children, especially if his 'friends' are coming over as well. Talk to your husband about the best way to really help the brother and remind him of his obligation to his own children. I know he feels obligated to help his brother, but addicts with just keep taking and taking as long as there is someone to rescue them. Good luck!
