What's the right thing to do ?

I'm married but seperated from my husband of nearly 5 years. We share a 3 year old daughter. He's moved out of our home almost 6 week's ago due to a domestic violence charge. ( He strangled me ) Now I have a 3 year Restraining Order against him.

Recently we've made contact and it seem's were both very sorry for what has happend. We miss eachother dearly and have even considered getting back together.

This is the tricky part- I have been seeing another man who I also have strong feeling's for. The other guy is totally aware of my seperation and my estranged husband. He and I spend time together and I enjoy myself when i'm with him. In the same sense, I'm still in love with my husband and the other guy.

My question's would be- Would it be stupid to rekindel with my husband and let the new guy go ?

Should I go thru with the divorce and say to hell with my estranged husband and stick with the new guy ?

My husband promises to get phyciatric help for his anger problems- is what he done to me forgiveable ?

Also * My husband has hurt me physically and mentally many times throughout our marriage. We have been seperated 4 or 5 times since 2004.

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