I did a terrible thing?

You may not be ready to forgive now, but you will need to in time. It will free you from the anger and bitterness you feel. Do it a bit at a time. Start by contacting your father to say that you are sorry that you walked away from him, but that it will take time to repair the damage. Then be willing to work on it a bit at a time.

God forgives us; please find it in your heart to forgive him.

I think you have answered your own question there. Until you both grow up and take responsibility for your own parts... It takes two to tango as they say. Then a reconciliation cannot take place.

Why not write to him instead and explain that you have a lot of anger still about how you perceive you were treated. Tell it how it is and be up front about it. What have you got to lose that you have not already lost.

Just because you are on speaking terms does not mean you have to go back to how it was. The roles have changed because you have grown up, or you should have by now. :)

You never have to see him ever again but getting rid of your ghosts would be a good thing. And you can only do that by talking it out with each other.

I wish you the best of luck. :)

Practicing Shaman... quantum physics rocks.

I had the blessing to have wonderful parents so who am I to judge you? I can only ask you a few questions. When he dies, will you feel ok with your decision if you don't try to find a way to forgive each other? Deep inside your heart, don't you want to know where a new kind of relationship would bring you and your father? Is it possible that he truly regrets what he did? Maybe you are meant to have some wonderful years as adults together. You certainly have a lot of thinking to do and I'll be praying for you so you can make the right decision. God Bless.

Forgive him and give him another chance. My mother denied me for most of my childhood and it was really hard for me to forgive her but I did... I know firsthand that it is hard, but your life will be much easier if you are not carrying around all of that resentment. Some relationships take a lot of effort and forgiveness. If you father had the heart to come to you, try to have some compassion. I can tell that you already know the answer to your own question... give mercy to get it.

Go back to your father and apologize... Don't listen to those who say to avoid him

Please do the right thing even though it is hard you'll regret it later haven't you heard those stories where ppl avoided their paretns for years reconciled much later and then regretted it for the rest of their life... but im not trying to scare you into it tho....

No, thats not a terrible thing. Your did a terrible thing, and if I were you, I would just avoid him. Thats what I do with my parents, and we never fight anymore... kind of sad, but sometimes its just what need sto happen for a while.

That's not terrible, at all.

Parents need to earn love and respect, just like anyone else. If your father hasn't earned this from you, that's his problem, not yours.

You aren't heartless. You may be justified. Give yourself a break.

Forgive but do not forget. Turn your hate into love, it will cleanse your conscience.

You nipped it in the bud. Good for you. You know damn well nothing would change if you accepted him. Cut your losses and move on.