To all thirty something girls..what would you do if you were newly wedded and....?

First, I would encourage and support him to help his own health. A doctor can only do so much. A lifestyle change is needed. Start walking together, eating right (not to say that you don't already but do better). Take him off all foods that affect high blood pressure. As for joints, back, legs...I am 36 and have always been very active, but I spent most of my life in similar pain. I found that it was caused or worsened by certain foods and lack of exercise. I quit all wheat/gluten (hurt my body/joints, made me exhausted all the time and cranky), caffeine (made my chest hurt), reduced sodium (headaches and high blood pressure).

Getting healthy and exercising together will increase his libido and get you both looking and feeling fitter and better. It's a win win. If he has other serious health issues then the doctor can help as well.

In the meantime, well if he is as awesome as you say then there should be ways he can help to keep you satisfied without exerting too much energy (he has hands and a mouth right?). I would try to gently suggest that you have needs and would like to share intimacy with him. Maybe you can plan a romantic night and both of you provide oral pleasure to each other. It doesn't have to be crazy, it can be romantic. I hear that you are in a tough position, but you both have needs and it sounds like you love each other. You can make it work.

Good luck!

My suggestion would be to try different things even the unaroused but willing can become aroused if stimulated in the right spot. I have read for a person who has joint pain or pains through out the day the best time to have sex is in the morning because it tends to be when the body is recovered/more energy and less pain. You can try other things to make some of the pain better icy hot or something along those lines, intimate massage, Certain positions are also better to decrease joint pain such as sex in a spooning position laying on the sides. If he is really your best friend and great in every other aspect I am sure with all of the above and he would consider trying this. I know they must work even though I don't personally know but they are suggestions that I have learned in my sexual behavior psychology class for people with arthritis.

He could try viagra but I will tell ya what, that stuff sucks. The side effects are terrible. Has he ever tried a sexual enhancer? I was in his situation, like I said, viagra was tried but it wasn't for me considering the side effects overwhelm the pleasures of it. I found this natural herbal enhancer and figured what the heck, if it's natural it must be great and plus it said no side effects. I tried it and after about two days of taking it I was just horny like a mad man. All the time, I have erections that want to stand straight up and the orgasms are to die for. The stuff was called vigrx plus and I saved on it at the time at http://hughs-reviews/ .com You should tell him to check it out. I love the fact it's made from a researched blend of herbs that seem to do the trick for me atleast.

Good luck and I hope this helps.

Respectfully, this is something you should have thought about Before getting married. Sex is not the main part of a loving relationship, however, it is a part none-the-less. You can be intimate and have sex without too much physical exertion. A hug, lightly stroking, kissing all are non-exertive ways of showing affection and love.

Most important, talk to him about how you're feeling. I would dare say, he loves you otherwise wouldn't have married you. I suggest that he stays with you while masturbating. Maybe even touch you at the same time. Have you tried doing a striptease for him? He may get turned on.

If there is genuine love, which appears to be the case, I'd say just be patient a while longer!! Maybe even counseling for you/him.

It's a fact that there is a myriad of health problems that can create sexual dysfunction in men. If I were you I would stick it out until he can get the medical attention he needs. After he is receiving proper care there is a good likelihood that the situation will improve. Please, don't go outside of your marriage to satisfy your sexual urges. Just continue to take care of it yourself for the time being. You took vows and I assume "in sickness and in health" was one of them...right?

You have this "awesome" husband that is in pain not only physically but emotionally and you are only thinking of yourself...what's with this? Be grateful you have a wonderful husband...help him to restore his health and pain management....you will be a better person for it.

from what i see here, you have a really nice husband, you let him go and yea you might get a husband that can do that for you but then he might be abussive or not kind or care about you, so i would wait for him to get the medical atttion he needs. but that is just my oppion or what i would do if i were you, but i am not you so you do what you want, but i do hope i helped you out! :)

You only got three more months, hang tight. Be thankful he is a good husband in all other aspects.

First I would realize that his issues have nothing to do with me, and everything to do with him. Then I would go out and get the most expensive, powerful sex toy I could find and buy it.