How do you deal with your anger before it explodes?

Write and angry letter and burn it!

or alternatively you could punch a hole in the wall :P

If you have tried all the usual steps, taking an emotional step back, walking away from the situation, etc. and you find that you are still dealing with excessive anger, you may want to consider something...it could be you have high blood pressure. High BP can and does effect many people, no matter what their lifestyle may be. It does and can effect anger. People with high BP tend not to handle difficult and / or anger causing situations well. Exercise helps many people, a basic thing like walking, or spinning, or a treadmill can be life saving in terms of stress management. Please consider seeing your doctor about your problem. Perhaps seeing a therapist would help as well, but you may want to rule out illness first.

Anger management: Explore your anger to gain control

Anger is natural, but it can be destructive when expressed inappropriately. Gauge your anger level and identify your unhealthy expressions of anger.

Do you slam down the phone when faced with endless computerized voice prompts? Have you gotten into a shouting match with a stranger over a parking space at the mall? Ever put your fist through the wall after an argument with your spouse?

This is not anger management at its finest. Although anger is a natural emotion, it may be getting the best of you. Instead of expressing your anger in a healthy and assertive way, you may be expressing it in a hostile, aggressive manner — a manner that could lead to violence and a slew of personal and professional consequences.

Here are some points to consider when assessing whether you express your anger in a healthy or unhealthy manner, and how to get a better grasp of anger management.

Understand your anger

Anger itself isn't bad. Expressed appropriately, anger can be healthy. It can help protect you from dangerous situations, energize you to resolve problems or lead to sociocultural reforms, for instance.

Sure, everyday frustrations, impatience and resentment can all cause your temper to flare. For many people, these are fleeting moments. They're able to take these situations in stride and quickly return to a sense of calm without exploding.

But if your blood boils after minor irritations — such as losing that coveted parking space — or if you're constantly seething, you may need to improve how you're managing anger. Anger that's out of control can be destructive, leading to problems in your relationships, at work, in your enjoyment of life and with your health. You could even be arrested or face other legal problems.

Determine your anger level

So, just how angry are you? This chart is a barometer of sorts. Although it doesn't score your anger, you can use it as a tool to raise your self-awareness about your level of anger.

To use the chart, see if the words on the left describe your behavior or thoughts over the past week. Check the ones that apply to your anger.

Gauge your anger

Words Check if it applies

Angry

Bitter

Rebellious

Spiteful

Deceived

Annoyed

Furious

Resentful

Bad-tempered

Ready to fight

Yelling

Frustrated

Disappointed

If you have several check marks, your anger level is on the high side. Try using anger management tips for several weeks to see if you can more effectively control your anger. You may also want to consult an anger management professional to help you learn to handle anger in a healthier way and to better understand what's behind your anger. Talk to your health care provider about resources, such as counseling or anger management classes.

You can repeat this exercise over time to see if your ability to manage your anger improves.

Hi there,

Try to calm yourself down at times when people are talking to you try to keep real calm Anger can only start if u start if first like Matches when u light it there is Fire and when this fire your anger starts to grow when it does stop talking to anyone before they more Oil to the fire and u don't want that so i suggest that try to keep Temper down as Cool as possible like say thinking of something Happy and Joyful.

Hope this Helps.

1 2 3 4 tell me that you love me more

5 6 7 8 tell me this or eat carrot cake

:] ha i made this up when i was ten years old

and would scream it at the tops of my lungs then

just laugh :] it's just silly and simple

and makes almost anyone smile.

say it in your head if you'd want.

it depends what kind of person you are, and what the exact problem is.

if it's a small problem, what are some things that you usually do to chill out? personally, i listen to music or talk to friends about it.

if it's a larger problem, you could talk to someone you trust like a friend, or if you think it's really bad you might want to see a therapist.

I make voodoo dolls of all the people who are on my nerves, then I dip them in acid, stab them, and throw them in the fire. That seems to help me out.

Punching bag works for me.

Walk away when you feel yourself getting angry, and take a walk.