Parents... do you apply the same rules you have at your house at other peoples houses'?

every rule that i have at my house both my girls follow every where we go friends houses, store, doc app. EVERYTHING! it sounds like we have about the same range of rules and they should def. be followed in the long run it will teach our children how to behave and not behave in public settings. i think every parent should have stabity in the rule setting so than you dont have one of those wild childs lol that always scream in the store or jump all over your furnitre lol hope this helps

The rules in the house are to be used outside the house, however, this time it sounds as though this other mother has a different set of rules for her children. If this was a problem then you should have said something as soon as you saw it not wait until the kid has had a chance to ruin your furniture or for you to get snippy with your company.

When I was at other peoples homes with my son he stayed with me which meant he was eating in the living room, possibly making a mess which I cleaned when he was done so that I wasn't excluded by my host/hostess.

We have some rules that our children have to follow everywhere, and some that are flexible at other peoples houses. Basically we tell our kids "its nanas house so its nanas rules" I look after my nephew at my house every once in a while and he knows that its my house so its my rules. I do have another nephew who comes over with his mum and he goes into my kids rooms and drags out toys and makes a mess and walks around and eats which my kids dont do and his mum just sits there and lets him. It drives me crazy. I ask him not too and he just says "i am allowed to at home" and his mum still says nothing.

Yes, all of our rules apply at other people's houses too, unless given special permission. (Example, eating popcorn in the living room is ok if we're watching a movie and they've been given permission to eat it).

I think you over reacted. Either way she was going to drool all over herself, whether she was there or in another room. Perhaps the other parent had a 'no meals in the living room' rule which didn't apply to candy. And maybe her light bulb only went on because you mentioned you don't like eating in YOUR living room.

My rules remain the same whether at home or at someones house. But not all people have the same rules, You should have said something immediately to the little boy, "Honey I don't allow eating in my livingroom, you can eat your candy at the dining room table", and then allow his parents to deal with it from there. I would not have a problem with my Hostess saying this to my child.

My daughter has the same rules wherever we are, but my rules may be different from yours. I have no problem with her eating in our living room as we plan to redecorate in a couple of years when she's not so sticky, so if I came to your house I wouldn't stop her eating in your living room unless you asked me to!!

On the other hand, no-one wears shoes in our house, but maybe they do in yours, so I'd have to ask you and your child to take your shoes off if you were in my house and I don't care if you put your feet on the sofa!!

Just because you have rules it doesn't mean they are the same as everyone else's rules. Bear that in mind and *ask* for the behaviour you want in your house.

we have a friend with 2 kids and when they come over, they wreak HAVOCK on my home!! i know for a fact they do not act that way at home, and its crazy that the parents dont enforce the same rules no matter where they go (thats how kids get confused!!). my daugther has the same rules everywhere, in the store, at grandmas, at church, at a friends house, etc.

I used to, but i found that everytime my s.i.l's visited they'd let their kids get up to all sorts. Which they would absolutely not allow in their house. Even my kids started to comment on that, like, mum, how come we're not allowed to do this, and they can when ther're here? And if i told them off, the mums would get angry. but they'd tell my kids off in their house. I tellyou, some people have one set of rules for themselves, but a different set for everyone else.

all the same rules at my house apply to anyplace we go. i have spoken with my mother and my mother-in-law and we all agree on the same rules.

if i had been in the situation you were in, i would also have said somethin. not everyone has the same rules for their kids. maybe they have old furnature and carpet and don't care about their house, when they go to someone elses, it may not click that you want your stuff taken care of. don't be afraid to let someone know how you feel. it is your stuff, your house.

My children are to behave AT LEAST as politely at others houses as they do at home. I can't stand parents who allow their children to run wild in somebody else's house and I refuse to be one of them.

My cousin does this same thing to me, her children are left to run loose at my house and in addition to wreaking the place it's confusing for my own kids who don't understand why they can't do that. I think you did the right thing in correcting him.