Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.
Trending News
How can I stop contradicting myself about relationships?
I want to be in one, but I don't want to be in one. Deep down I yearn for one, but my actions tend to say something different. I don't know why this is and how to correct it. I've tried asking past boyfriends and guy friends, but they don't seem to say anything important. And, I can't go into counseling because of certain reasons I cannot state here. Why am I so ambivalent?
In response to "The Duece's" answer, I guess I can go into more details.
I will say that I've struggled with being overweight and other self-image issues. I know I'm not proud of the person I am. I have never been sexually abused or molested. I was not very social with people growing up causing me to be alone a lot of my childhood and teen years. I didn't start becoming really, really social until I started going to college at 24 (I'm 29 now). I didn't start dating until I was 18, but I dated men from chat lines and internet services. I've been in a bunch of "psuedo-relationships" over the last decade. Most of these guys I intensely liked, but they never really liked me back or I didn't understand the signs if they did. I will say the year I found out my parents' divorce did cause me to question relationships in general. Just recently, a guy that I liked for quite some time has found someone else and I'm deeply hurt over it. Never tell a guy you like them. Lesson learned. lol
4 Answers
- Kaya MLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
You have to decide on which side of the ball you are going to be on. If you want a man or someone to cherish you then you have to be on the side that you want a mate to know. If you want to straddle the fences then they will come into your life and see confusion and quickly move on.
- 1 decade ago
I don't know, I can't guess unless I had more details about you. Like maybe your parents or someone else you know had a bad relationship so you worry yours will be like that so even though you want a boyfriend, you think you are doomed to fail so you don't let yourself have a relationship. Or maybe you are just too young and you want a boyfriend but just aren't ready to settle down yet. There are lots of reasons. Maybe you were molested or abused and now even though you crave love and a boyfriend, you are too afraid to give someone a chance. Or maybe you want a relationship but it never feels right with a guy because maybe you are struggling with your sexuality orientation.
There are just too many factors it could be. We'd need more background information on you.
- 1 decade ago
You are afraid and you didnt find the right guy yet-stay positive-when you start gettting nervous and thinking negative tell yourself some positive things-after awhile of doing this you will feel better
good luck
