Doctor addressed step mom as mom instead of me. What would you do?

Yes, I would have interrupted and corrected her. I'm sure it was an honest mistake though but it still needed to be corrected. The stepmom is not the mom.

I understand why this would upset you, but I'm sure it wasn't intentional on the doctor's part. You shouldn't interrupt to correct him, since the topic of that conversation is your daughter's health and that is more important. But maybe mention it at the end if there is an appropriate opportunity. Better yet, see if you can speak to him after everyone else has left. This would be better because it there would be less embarrassment all around.

I don't think it would've been rude for you to correct the doctor (or for the stepmom to), but at the same time I don't think it would be really necessary either. As long as your tone was friendly I don't think it would be a big deal, I think it's important the doctor knows who is the girl's mother and who is the stepmother if you're both there.

hmmm... This is a tough one to go through. I am a stepmom having said that I respect everyones feelings and think everyone will look at this differently.

Im not sure what your custody arrangment is or what your daughter calls step mom. My step daughter calls me mom. Her mother works alot as well as Dad so usually I am the one doing dr visits, parent conferences, soccer practice. Once Izzy ended up in Urgent Care and We met her and her mother there. The Dr. addressed me as Mom and her mother as aunt with a question mark look since he was used to seeing me. I simply said shes Mommy and Im step mom.

I am actively involved in my stepkids life. I loved them since the day I met them. They call me Mom and Nini. Ive never influenced them either way. Step parents always have a bad rep and its a hard thing to love and care for children that arnt yours and at the same time worry about whos toes your stepping on. Its sad that parents want and expect you to care and love their kids as they would, everything you do is put under a microscope and criticized However something as mediocore as being referred to as Mom is hard to deal or accept for them. For step parents like me...and i know alot of them, I say weve earned the title, we arnt babysitters or caregivers.

So my answer is this. Just assume your role. If you play a big or main role in your daughters life and your the one answering and asking all the questions to the Dr. He will get it. Dont make an awkward situation for everyone, especially your daughter. She knows who her mommy is and thats the most important thing right?

It may seam petty and immature, but I would have had the step mom wait in the waiting room once I got there.If asked why, I would have said, "Because I am her mother." big smile, very polite. happy and informative. Once in the Dr. Room, after not asserting myself, I would have corrected the Doctor, nicely...."Oh, Dr. Lattarel, I am Tina's mom..." nice smile, polite. that way there is no mistake who's decisions are legal in that office. In most cases, the step parent has no legal rights to make medical decisions once you or that childl's father are on the scene. It is a legal issue, not so much an ettiqutte thing. You are not there to hurt feelings, you are there to take care of your child and make sure that they have their info straight. My dughter's step mom thought that she had legal rights to make decisions when she was the one to take my daughter to the doctor. She did not. My ex husband was military and she has a power of attourney. She thought that that meant she could exercise legal custody over my duaghter as well. I had my lawyer explain to her otherwise. The Doctor's office needs to legally know who is responsible for that child. It is not a game.

People nowadays feel that calling you Mom or Dad is being on friendly basis. I think it's rude. When you're a professional, such as doctors, you should refer to any adults related to your patients as Mr. or Mrs.

You could correct the doctor by telling him that that you're Wendy's mother and the doctor may call you Mrs. Missy.

If you felt uncomfortable having him call her step-mom "mom" then you could of done something. I know its hard having your daughter have two moms... Step-mom and mom. Next time if you feel uneasy say something.

YES if it meant that much to you then by all means you should have said "I am the mom"

If you are just conserned about your daughters health then not so much.

I would simply have said "excuse me, I'm her mother" so that he would address his comments/diagnoses to you. and yes it IS important as if he had questions as to her past medical history, you're the one who would have been able to answer them, not the stepmother. not to mention the fact that had he needed to do something to her medically, you're the one who would sign the consent forms, not her.

you could have simply said I'm her mom not a big deal