For Married Men who slept with another woman..pls answer..?

The other-women sex was new and exciting and, in my case, lacked the level of intimacy I felt when making love to my wife. For me, sex with the other woman was just sex. It was fun and it was pleasurable. I wasn't looking for a LTR, and I certainly wasn't looking for a better model partner. I loved what I had at home, but I had sexual desires beyond what any one woman could possibly satisfy.

I found it very easy to compartmentalize my extra-curricular sex life from my married life. When I came home to my wife, I felt the same great affection for her I had always felt. In fact, having just had meaningless sex, I appreciated the fact she was with me to have meaningful sex. Oddly, I didn't feel any guilt. Perhaps I rationalized my behavior with the knowledge I had found a way to fulfill the sexual needs she couldn't completely satisfy -- and I knew that she would be hurt if she knew she couldn't completely satisfy me.

You may find it interesting to know this was all in the past. Ultimately, I grew to not like the fact I was hiding my cheating from my wife, so I told her all about it. That was 10 years ago, and we are still very happily married -- only now we have more honesty. Needless to say, I haven't felt sexually satisfied in 10 years.. but so far, the trade for total honesty has been worth it.

Hope that helps.

Typically the affair sex is the best he ever had and is very hard to not go back to. That's why its treated like an addiction with a cold-turkey strategy.

Men tend to rationalize it as this way he gets the sex he needs and doesn't have to pressure his wife into more sex than she can enjoy. For a short while, life is very very good. Things can even improve around the house and within the marriage because a stressor has now been eliminated.

Same thing, I was angry with my wife all the time; it permeated the house. Once the affair started it got easier to be at home and I wasn't so angry.

As far the emotions involved; it verges on split personality. With your wife you only have feelings for her; with the affair you only feel for her. Once the two know about each other those bubbles of separation collapse and the magnitude of what he's done finally hits him.

I really think its the same for women. When I told my EF that it had to stop and that I had told my wife everything *she lost it* and suddenly could not believe what she had done to me and my wife and to herself and her husband. I imagine this is only more intense for a consummated affair.

At that time, I was just thinking about nothing but feeling good. Afterwards, dirty, guilty. Then came the justifications on why what you did was alright. Sometimes it holds out, in the end it doesn't. When i came home and did it to my wife during that time i felt dirty, guilty so the sex was different. I didn't make love to my wife though because she told me that same day that she had an affair too. Just had sex and went to play video games...so that was different. Kinda like chugging a beer real quick so you don't have to worry about holding the bottle when you play your game. All men are dogs, really.

For any man to cheat on his wife means, something is missing in their life, for me, it helped balance me out, I used to be angry at my wife all the time, once I started having an affair with my boss :-), the anger went away, and I even started liking my wife again, and doing stuff with her, because now I got all the Comforts of home and still got to live out some fanticies that most don't get, with my boss, she WANTED me, which made me feel great, at home, I'm a Dad, a Husband, my wife would never (yes we talked) make me feel like she WANTED me, I was a husband,

So how did I feel, like a friggin king, I had two women that wanted me for different reasons, I felt like a man, after that I had the confidence to start my own business, and have been able to give my wife anything she needs, I have nt had an affiar since, hey my wife is friggin hot,

The only thing is that when she found out, I felt very bad because I did not think it would hurt her as much as it did.

MORAL OF STORY - treat your husband like you love him, like you know the real him, he might not need to reach out - don't be a prude, go to ziporn.com watch what some of the girls that actually enjoy sex do, watch thier faces, watch them enjoy touching themselfs, THEN DO THAT FOR YOUR HUSBAND, and no matter what, DO NOT swallow, men love it, but lose respect for the lady, I would not want my wife to kiss our kids with a mouth like that, not on the face, on the ****,

People who cheat on their spouses and lie, are usually looking to fulfill some unmet need. No, not a need their spouse should have filled; a sick, twisted, childish need to have one's ego stroked. To feel important. to feel "hot" enough to be wanted by someone else. No amount of cheating, or I Love You's will fill this black hole in their soul.

Their cheating had nothing to do with the spouse they cheated on. It had to do with self-loathing, cowardice, and broken thinking. these people are sick, like addicts.

Most likely, they hold back from being truly intimate with their spouse too. So neither sex with the spouse, nor sex with the affair partner, is really satisfying. Yet they convince themselves it was the greatest, and describe it as such, to try to justify to themselves the horrible thing they did. That's how they come home, pretend nothing happened, and sleep soundly at night, like a psychopath.

You'll never get what your looking for on this question, because all men are created different. Most men can't hide the fact that there cheating, but those women that do cheat we will never find out. Women can hid it better then men and thats a fact.

Very difficult question! I was cheating (a stupid expression indicating that marriage is a game, which for women it is, btw) on my philandering wife. My wife was cheating, lying, deceiving, attacking, betraying and the rest.

I dearly needed to love someone. I became involved with a gal and we fell in love. It was great. She's since moved on.

My wife would demand sex to the point I cried. I cried during sex! God knows how many lovers she's had!

I keep a blank spot in my mind just to put all the sh** of our marriage.

How do I feel? I don't. This planet isn't worth it.

P.S. I'll never trust a woman ever!!! They lie! Cheat! Better than any man! My wife's own sister came on to me! My wife screwed my friend and our pastor for a year!

Know this: Never trust a woman!!!

with my husband once he slept with her he no longer wanted to be married anymore, think he thought if he left he could rid himself of any guilt and it worked for him. once he had sex with her our marriage was over. he never expressed any remorse, never said he was sorry. but 5 yrs later when my son saw him at a restraunt he asked about me and i later heard she was not in his life anymore. funny how he never cared about me when we were married once she came into his life. once he slept with her all he could think of was leaving the marriage and getting away before i found it out so i could not confront him.

Because of a new relationship with a mistress you think about her so you can reach an orgasm with your wife that is if you're into your mistress, however if you treat your mistress like a piece of *** then you still enjoy your wife.

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