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22yr ol. I have a 7mth ol grl, a 8mth prego wife of 10mths dat i can no longer afford. Is the army a bad idea?
At times i wonder how rockier my life can possibly get. Married my wife in july of 08 and we had a baby girl in august. Low and behold its April and we're 7mths prego with a lil boy. First pregnacy was very exciting and we both were so high off of being first time parents that nothing mattered but our new family together. Of course every relationship has its ups and downs but our ups out weighed our downs. We were newly weds. After she had the baby she wanted her immediate family and friends to be apart our childs life. Good enough for me. Thing is, before we had the baby or got married her family and friends wanted nothing to do with her. She allows them to disrespect me and will never put them in their place as my wife and the woman of our home. They were jealous we were getting married yet alone have a beautiful baby together. Ever since she's brought them into our new life things have gone downhill major and we have only been married for 10mths and dated a yr. She hasnt worked in almost a year now so that means i am providing for her and my kids. I dont believe there's hope for our marriage at this point and all i have to look forward to is the future of my two beautiful kids. I love their mother dearly and willing to keep a open door for a second try at being together but I need a woman that has my back not one thats gonna have me lookn ova my shoulder every time i turn my back. Her family and friend does most of her thinkn for her. She never considers me in any of her decision making. At this point I cant provide for my family like I want to so I have considered going to the army asap. Not only will my childrens future be promising but they to would be able to travel the world. I need advice/encouragement from all of you guys!!!
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- :)Lv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
Every relationship and marriage has its ups and downs what really matters is how you take it on. You love her and want to be with her. Do u really want your kids to grow up in a single mother household where many guys will "take care" of them" she is preggers and she is very emotional right now and is under a lot of weight this wont help her at all tell her how u feel and tell her parents that u wont put up with their bullshit u are the man take care of your wife and kids u will be glad u did ten years from now. dont give up o them your kids will grow to resent u for it in the future for walking out on them. the army is not so great go to college get a degree will be so much happier after
Source(s): life - 1 decade ago
Well I am a army wife. I cant tell you what the best choice is but I can let you know some of the good and the bad. Good- you will have a steady income. You with have health benefits for your family. You can use your GI bill for yourself or you can give it to your kids for their collage. You will have life insurance. Bad- If you don't stay with your wife you may not get custody of your kids because you have to have child care and if you get deployed then you will have to temp sign over rights to someone else. No matter how shitty you feel you have to get up everyday before sunrise to do PT. You will probably work at 12 hours a day so you wont see your family that much. You will be deployed. And if you and your wife stay together it is very hard on a marriage during long separation ( not impossible). I think that this is a big decision. I think as far as your marriage goes you should try counseling. If your wife wont do it then maybe you should walk away. But I think that if you love her that should be your last option
- 1 decade ago
Ok i hate to tell you but i am on both of your sides.I understand when a woman has a baby she does what her family in her life no matter what they done it is a big deal for a women.So i understand why she wants her family there.BOOO on her for not standing by you there comes a point in everyone life when there old family takes a little back seat for the new one.I think she is a little over pergo happy.It is a wonderful thing and yes she has a wonderful little girl and is about to have awonderful little boy but you help make that happen dont leave you out just because now everyone wants to coo and caa her.But give her some time this is new her family beeing there a new baby and one one the way she not seening the whole picture and if in a about 6 months thing are not better then you should sperate for a little bit so her what she is missing.
- 1 decade ago
The Army would be a good way to get your life going in the right direction, but it is very hard on families. Will you be learning a technical skill, and/or taking college classes while you are in? If so, I say go for it. If not, you are wasting your time.
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- 1 decade ago
The military would provide stability for you and family, but it sounds like you're running away. Before you enlist, get some family counseling. Your wife seems to be pretty immature so maybe the therapy and the military thing will wake her up.
Some women take longer than others to be an adult. Good luck.
- 1 decade ago
Well I am very sorry to hear this...
I could only tell you one thing. And that is to look for God, ask Him to help you to give you the strength and understanding to support your family. Put your marriage in His hands and watch Him work wonders in your marriage. You will be the happiest you have ever been.
- 1 decade ago
The army will provide an income and assist you with an education. They will help you grow up. Think for yourself. This girl is not right for you. Move on.
- 1 decade ago
you need to lay of the beer and weed..... hit the books... everyday go to the library and book store and choose a carear path.... Read!.. you get paid alot more for what you know than the work you can do with your hands...
The idea is is... to get a good job so you can work 9-5 M-F, and use the rest of the time to sheare with your wife n kids... to watch thtem grow.....
the Army is the easy out in your case....
How about it??
Source(s): EDIT: on second thought.. the arm is probably what ur lazy aZZ needs : ) I promise they will make a man out of you... ENJOY ! EDIT 2 : Yogert.. maybe she's a cow???
