How to get out of long, over emotional relationship? Help plz?

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I have been seeing the same guy for nearly four years now, needless to say things were pretty serious. He lives in my apartment with me and my roomie.

I tried breaking up with him 2-3 months ago as things have been going down hill for a while. He freaked out threatened suicide, so I settled for designating our relationship as "open" i.e. we could date other people. But when I started casually dating another guy he freaked out again, had an emotional breakdown, panic attacks and I caved again and stopped seeing the other guy completely. I am really starting to disdain the bf just for what feels like boxing me in.

I care about him (bf) a lot and do not want to hurt him, nor do I want him to hurt himself- but at the same time I feel like this situation isn't fair to me at all. I gave him a date (last day of June) to be moved out, but he doesn't seem to be taking it seriously at all. Every time I mention it he starts to freak out again and I have no idea how to handle this situation without first getting a psych degree. 

How should I handle this? I am getting so frustrated, I may fly off the handle and kill him myself! (Not really- but I am reaching my limits for temperance)


(Also posted in Singles & Dating- thought I may get a bit more insight here though)

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I dated a guy for two and a half years who was suicidal.  One time he came to my house with a gun planning on killing himself because he had so many problems in his life.  We are so hot and cold, very rocky for those 2 and a half years that when we would break up, 3 weeks later I would run to him to make sure he was alive and that ended up in getting back together.  It was so stressful since I didn't know if he was going to do it or not.. I was so stressed just like you were and I would be miserable just like him.. The way I ended the relationship was I understood I could not protect him any longer because I was dragging myself in misery.  I read him a bible verse that says "I will never forget you, I have carved you in my hands". Which was when Jesus Christ told his diciples he will never forget them.  As a Christian woman I told him God is with you, but i cannot be there for you anymore.. I changed my number and that was four months ago.. I don't know if he is alive or not ( I hope he is) but I understood with myself it isn't my task in life t okeep him alive.. So maybe you should reconsider what you want in life.. Let yourself be happy..

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