Can you help me understand approach/avoid and other game playing?

For eleven months, this man and i have been getting closer and closer, our relationship more and more intense. Every time we get especially close, either he balks and runs away or i make demands that we meet and he runs away. (All on line)

Finally, he told me to back off and leave him alone. Took me a few weeks, because we game in the same spot. I finally stopped trying to talk to him (he never answered me, not once, after he told me to back off) and so i wrote him and apologized for disrepsecting his request. Then, I stopped gaming when he was gaming, leaving the room when he showed up.

Within a day, he was following me onto the game and talking to me like it was old times again, sharing his cares and his triumphs, making jokes, acting sexy towards me.

I really want to connect with this guy, really want to meet. Is there anything I can do realistically to make it happen? (We're 10 hours apart.)

I see that if I go away, he comes after me. How do I make that work for me? What about the actual relationship? I hate these games. I just want to talk with him and play with him. Do we have to keep playing ignore/talk - actually this is new, in the last month of our 11 months.

He's 17 years younger than I am, but very attracted to me and not attracted to the MINDS of women his age. I still look good, look only about 10 years older than he does...