Should I tell him or wait til tomorrow?

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I have just been told that my father in law has died. He has been ill for some considerable time and we all knew that illness was terminal; though the end has come suddenly we thought he had a few more months. . But my husband is in Paris on a business trip. He’s only there for 48 hours and he is flying back tomorrow afternoon, on arrival in the UK he has a 3 hour car drive home. He has an important presentation to give tomorrow morning and he already has a lot on his mind with other things going on in our lives right now. 
So the question is should I phone him and tell him, or do I leave it and tell him tomorrow. To add insult to injury his mobile which he hates, has very little credit on it and because he will be charged for receiving a call I will only have a short time to talk to him before his credit runs out and I don’t know his hotel name. He has 3 other siblings who are looking after his mum and dealing with the situation. There is nothing he can do if I tell him and there is no one he can talk to he is alone in Paris. Also coming home early would be difficult if not impossible. My instinct is not to tell him now, but to wait until tomorrow. I am worried that if I tell him he will be alone and miserable and all his problems will come to the surface. He will have no one to talk to and I feel it is better to wait until i can tell him face to face, but am I wrong?  Should I tell him? Advice please.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If it were my Dad I would want to know, but I appreciate the difficult circumstances. Ring him and tell him you urgently need to speak to him and ask for the hotel name and then maybe ring him there though.

If you decide not to tell him though then I can understand your decision.

Whatever happens, sorry to hear the bad news.

All the best!

tyra · Answer

How ungrateful of you! You decided to go out friday night with some dic8 head that left you in the club therefore you called your YOUNGER SISTER and out of the goodness of her heart she came all the way from another city to come pick you up~! She don't have gas to keep coming back and forth just to please you like you are the queen of Egypt!!!! So therefore if she want to let her boyfriend(that wont leave her stranded)take her out for her birthday you need to wait until tomorrow.For God sake I can see if she said you had to wait a week its one day.Don't you think you can do her this one favor?????

movin2dr · Answer

What a dilema but if I were your husband, I would be even more upset if you waited to tell me the next day.  We are talking about his father and not just a friend.  Call him and tell him.

angelkatie7234 · Answer

Thinking about what my hubby would want i reckon it is best to let him get home early.  It would be upsetting for him to take the news alone and not be able to speak with and comfort his family.  Let him get home and then tell him.  Could you somehow let his work know that he can't do the presentation and ask them to keep it confidential?

Extremely sorry for your loss.  Stick together xxx

Anonymous · Answer

father in law ? does that make him your husbands dad ?
=/ if it is the case that he is his dad then you should really tell him. but tell him not to worry. hes back soon and there is nothing he can really do.  and he has a right to know. it is his dad
if its not his dad then leave him. he doesnt need to be worrying if he has meetings. 

sorry for you loss.
abi (15)
x

The Wayfarer · Answer

Tell him! its very important that you do. though you think not telling him is best for him, what would you do if you were in his shoes? he might hold it against you later.

best of luck. and hope all goes welll for both of you

the_black_alchemist · Answer

it is better to wait until i can tell him face to face

Yaya · Answer

I'd tell him face-to-face.

dreamweaver · Answer

you better tell him asap its his dad

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