Should I get a mothers day gift for my soon-to-be-ex wife?

Yes you should ....for your son...after all is mothers day not wife's day

Sorry dude, I know this is a rough day for you. Hopefully you have family around that you can immerse yourself in, to help ease the pain.

You want to reach out to her, to show her you still think about her, to show that you are still the kind hearted, thoughtful person that she left. What I would do, not knowing much about the total picture, is this. I would wait a day or two, and then send her a belated Mother's Day card. Maybe if you feel like opening up your heart a little, you could tell her how your love for her remains, and always will.

She chose to leave for some reason or reasons. Maybe it was just a case of finding the grass a little greener on the other side. You can hold out hope that it will end, and that she will return. To make this a real possibility you need to give her space, you need to give her time, you need to give her understanding, and you need to give her support.

Remember you have a child with this woman, and the better your relationship with the mother is, the better off the child is.

Painful, yes, humiliating, yes, but if you are a true man you can rise above that. You can channel the love you have into your child, and always remain the positive force. What doesn't kill you, will make you stronger.

Although she is not the greatest spouse (or stbx) she IS the mother of your child.. IF you have custody currently of your child you can go to the Dollar store and get some paint and a blank sign and have you son make her a handprint gift you wont have to spend much... even so you dont need to spend much get her something cheap a 99 cent card and let your son pick her some flowers... you dont want to DISCOURAGE your son from giving his mother a give adn since he's not old enough to do so you have to knda be his advocate... make sure its to mommy from son in particular and make note in giving it that its from him and not you

Yes, take control of the situation which sounds like was not in your control. Have your child make something with you for her. Do not buy anything from him. Have him make a picture with paint or a card. It will show that you are the better person in this relationship and shows her where your priorities are, with your son. That is where the focus should be. Ignor the fact that she has a boyfriend. YOU are always your son's dad.

You should do things for your son, even if it means getting Mothers Day, Christmas or Birthday presents, these gifts will be from your son and not from you, you are just supporting him with things he can't do on his own, later on in life, when he has his own money you son will be able to buy his own gifts.

Just a small box of chocs or flowers will do, or even some 'bath stuff' will be sufficient.

don't go overboard and make sure your son gives them to her and not you.

Well hypothetically you should be supportive of your son and go ahead and help him pick out a mother's day gift. As he gets older, he will want to do it and may need your help. You want him to know you care about his feelings more than you dislike his mom.

However, since he's only 2.5, and you're still fuming over this mess, I don't think anyone would blame you for skipping this year.

I think if you believe she is a good mother to your child then you could get a simple card and put a little note in the card that says something like this..."even though we are having our differences right now I do still believe you are a good mother so have a great day"

If your son understands what mother's day is then help him make a card or something, if he doesnt understand the day then don't bother. Its a nice gesture to say it in passing or something, and when your son gets older encourage involvement making or buying her something for his sake, and hopefully she does the same.

Yes. You should get her something for your son to give to his mother. This is about the relationship between her and her son, not you and her. If she is a good mother, she deserves a gift from her son... even if she was a shitty wife.

get her somthing small or a card and have the baby draw on it if possible and just say its from the baby your going to have to do this till your child is like 13 also it shows that you are taking the high road and when. also dont forget what goes around comes around you will have your day when you get to laugh at her and her poor choices

Yes, I think you should.

This gift would be from your son, not you.

Forget about her not being a good wife, Is she a good mother?

If so, then yes, give her a gift.