Ok I know this is TMI but I would like an answer?

Basically, do it more! You're going to hurt right now, for two obvious reasons: you haven't done it in awhile so your PVC muscles (the ones you use to do Kegels/hold it when you have to pee/sometimes squeeze during sex) naturally tighten up when you don't have sex for a period of time. Also, he's big! And that takes some getting used to! You may have to try different positions that make it more comfortable for you guys to be intimate and feel good for both of you, same as you have to do for when a guy is small.

For awhile, don't do any Kegels and try not to squeeze tighten those muscles "down there" any more than you have to (aka bathroom emergency! lol). He can also use other things, like his hand (I don't want to be gross or give too much detail here, so you can use your imagination) to "help you get ready" which will make the main event more comfortable. And really, the more times you do it, the more you will get to know each other & what works (and what doesn't!). Your body will stretch and become used to it too. Also you can use... "artificial" boyfriends (lol) to help yourself stretch out a little. (Sorry if that was TMI). Also try not to go so hard for awhile - be gentile until you get used to it. That might be what's causing the cramping feeling.

The other thing is, make sure you pee before and after sex, ESPECIALLY after. All the action down there can force bacteria into your urinary tract which can give you a UTI, a bladder infection or even a kidney infection. You can also get those randomly, and if your tummy is hurting today, you may have been on the verge of a UTI or had a minor one and this may have just put it over the edge. If it burns or hurts when you pee or you see blood, go to your doc and get some antibiotics.

If your abdominal pain continues or gets worse, you may have an STD or a pelvic infection. It's very unlikely though that you would have sex the night before and be feeling STD symptoms the next day, but it is possible. Yeast can also cause itching or pain down there and nasty symptoms sometimes if you haven't had sex in awhile. That one you can try a drugstore, non-prescription Monistat pack for if you think that might be it and it doesn't go away.

Anyways, seriously my best advice is just keep doing it and get to know each other and make sure he's careful with you for awhile!

Yes sometimes rough sex can make you feel this way. You feel extremely sensitive and it can hurt or better described as a great discomfort sitting down. Bleeding can also occur. I had this once or twice and I went to the doc just to be safe. He told me that the head of the penis touched the cervix to hard and the friction caused it to bleed, there was nothing to worry about. The bleeding should not last long though.

However this can still be worrying to us so the best thing to do is to go to the doc. Besides a check up can never hurt and it will put your mind at ease.

Good luck!

Ok, so I could also be giving out an excessive amount of understanding too. However, I had anything equivalent occur to me. Still does each summer time. I idea that I had anything "improper" down there, however seems after many visits to the health care professional, I'm simply very inclined to getting boils. Which it appears are incredibly normal in areas in which there has a tendency to be hair, sweat and rubbage. Don't be concerned. It's mostly simply that. To maintain it, don't squeeze, stick it with a needle or scratch. This can motive the contamination to head deeper, simplest leading to a higher extra painful bump. Simply follow sizzling compresses two-three instances every day to attract contamination to the skin and in only a few days they will have to be long gone. Hope this is helping any.

Don't worry, the same thing has happened to me. I bled after not having sex for over a year. It even felt like I was losing my virginity again! The first couple times my fiance and I had sex I had really bad cramping (he is on the big side as well). I asked my gynecologist and she told me that sometimes with larger men, their penis touches the cervix during sex and may put pressure on it. But anyway.. I think you're fine. Just see how you feel tomorrow, and until then maybe don't have sex. Hope this helps! :)

its just cuz you havent had sex in a long while and you get tighter...its to be expected. i get that way too and i think i bled too cuz it was awhile..

Even though it is not your first time, you'll find some good advice here:

http://www.google.com/search?q=painful+intercourse

http://www.google.com/search?q=first+time+pain