Tips on how to come out to my mother that I'm bisexual?

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My mom is a Baptist Christan, though she doesn't go to church, still holds very firm beliefs that you will go to hell if you are gay, bisexual, lesbian, transgender, etc. Though she has accepted my depression and is working on me being Pagan I'm worried this may be the thing the straw that breaks the camels back of sorts. I'm just a little worried what to do if she wants to try to "cure" me of a "disease" I don't have. And I have no idea how to even bring it up! I was going to write a note or something and slip it under her door so she would see it when she went to work in the morning. But that just seems so impersonal. But I'm such a coward that I can't just go up to her and say "Hey mom. I'm bisexual and I've known since I was in the 9th grade!"

So if you could give me some advice on how to tell her and handle any adverse reactions that may arise. Thank you very much for your help!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

im a lesbian and iave known since i was 9 years old.  just sit her down, tell her straight. talk to her about how it isnt a choice, and can not be cured, and you are happy the way you are. tell her the bible never siad loving the same gender was wrong, it said homosexual sex was wrong...thats all.  then give her some time and space
-holly

Experto Credo · Answer

It is that important to tell her?

I mean, I know you are concerned about "living a lie" and not being fully honest with your mother.

On the other hand, would it be better to "kill her with kindness" and not bring it up. I mean, she may think there are already two strikes against you and the bi thing could shatter her world. I would kee pit under wraps for the present.

let me ask this question: why is there a need to tell her now?

Anonymous · Answer

What's your problem? If you're bisexual, you can just go out with men and your mother wouldn't care. You don't need to confess anything to her.

I don't view being a bisexual as having to announce it officially.

"Hello everyone, nice to meet you. I'm a bisexual by the way. Nice weather today eh?"

You will be known as a bisexual by how you act and how you argue. No need to have a "coming out;" By your actions ye shall be known...

Anonymous · Answer

come strait out and say it. just be completely honest and say, "This is who i am and i'm sorry if you don't agree with it but this is me...i still love you mom" say something like that it might work.

Jessy ジェシカ · Answer

Just kind of blurt it out. That's how I did it. I never found a gentler way of saying it.

Anonymous · Answer

u dont have to tell her if that is how u feel. i am 15. i have not told my parents. why do they need to know? its not even that big a deal to us bi sexuals. and it is our personal life. they dont need to know or at least not now

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