Am I a normal kid or what's happening?

Dude, you're 14. You're still a kid and you're life is supposed to be going to school, enjoying your friends, hanging out and doing chores. You don't have to get into extracurricular stuff. You're still growing and learning what you like and what makes you tick.

Doing drugs isn't going to help your life or you in any way. In fact, the human brain stops maturing/growing in your 20's. By taking drugs, you are screwing up your brain and impairing it big time. No wonder you aren't interested in anything or have any motivation! Stop the drugs....they won't help you and you'll just make yourself sick and screw up your life.

Don't worry about your brother....he's 21 and knows what he wants. Big deal. You will too one day. I'm 36 and I'm still looking for my niche in life. Some people don't really know what their strong points are until later in life. So don't worry about where you are now.

Life will get better if you are open to it and allow it to happen...and if you want it to be better. Doing drugs isn't making it better...it's killing your brain. Stop the drugs. Go to school and get good grades, make friends, hang out. Start going to the library or museums or something and trying different things. Make a list of what makes you smile or happy or things you'd like to do one day.

You're going to be ok. But you have to stop the drugs. Now.

Trust me.. drugs are not your answer! My life is a lot worse and I don't use drugs. Don't worry about ur brothers, as you get older you will feel the same way and do the same things. Right now you're kinda young, when you get older you'll understand that you will need to do those too. And you don't have to live up to your brothers, live ur own life. U can make it whatever you want and I'm sure ur parents will be proud of you no matter what. Just plz don't do drugs, it's the wrong answer. If u do drugs, ur practically throwing ur life away.

I'm 14 to and let me tell you this first. Stop the drugs. If your doing good in school drugs will automatically kill that. Then you'll REALLY be living for nothing.2 get a counsler. I find that my counsler helps me alot. Explain how you feel to your family. Or ask your brother for advice. We're only 14. We have time to decide. Til then make more time for your family friends and hanging out just being a teen(: this is supposed to be the best times of our live so try to make the most of It. Need more help? You can write me(:

Oh no! That is totally what happened to me! Except now I'm almost 25 and just barely kicked heroin (2+ years clean now). I still smoke pot. But drugs are not the f*ing way to go. I used to go to raves and take rolls, and basically tried everything. IT's NOT worth it. Trust me (although I don't expect you to, because older people told me and I didn't believe them- it's just standard teenage thinking).

Don't worry, you will find yourself. But don't find yourself with the drug crowd, because that's what I did and now 10 years later I wish I would've joined one f*king after school activity and made some healthy friends.

Things will work out for you if you let them, but if you keep doing what you're doing, you might not come back from it (it's really hard).

Stop using drugs, and start doing random ad spontanious stuff everyday, nomatter how rediculous they are. Like roll down a hill, or kiss a random girl on the street. You will start to feel like you are living a meaningfull life. Drugs can really screw up your life at such a young age. Wait until your brain is done developing before you get into that stuff.

Hmm, not sure why this is in family and relationships, but okay.

Of course I'm going to tell you that drugs really isn't going to help anything, but you've probably heard that before.

You should talk to someone about it, or do something crazy. I know the feeling, like you'll never live up to your brother's footsteps (ehm, I have an older, popular, engineer brother too), but you really just need to be yourself. Try finding something small that you like to do and build off of that. If you like skating, or reading, or paintballing (yes, I know these are really stupid examples) just try to find something you like to pass the time with. As long as you're doing something you love, the rest should fall into place.

And yeah, it's pretty normal to feel apathetic, or like you won't live up to expectations.

Good luck!

And I highly suggest you stop with the drugs.

:)

God. He's the answer. No, seriously, He is. Life isn't worth living, except with Him. And it's totally worth it. Talk to Him. God is the reason we are. He knows the real reason you're on this earth exactly where you are in life right now. After all, He did make you! This answer may sound deep and you may think it's way to spiritual of an answer to you, but just do this. Start talking to God, find a Bible. See what happens...

those last four sentences sound just like me. i know how you feel, though i've never done drugs to compensate. it feels like there's nothing to work towards sometimes, and it really sucks. my friends are the one thing that keeps me going actually. they've proved time and time again that there's definitely something goin for me. its the people who love me for who i am, and that'll never change.

also, finding a goal, like one of the other people said, is a good way to motivate yourself, and feel like there's something else to live for.i'm still tryin to figure out mine... but i'm sure i'll get there and you will too. everybody finds their purpose eventually. some people just have to wait until their purpose finds them.

HONESTLY I THINK YOUR VERY DEPRESSED..BUT YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PATH BECAUSE YOU RECOGNIZE YOU NEED HELP AND THAT IS THE 1ST STEP =]

THIS ARE SOME THINGS YOU COULD DO TO IMPROVE YOUR MOOD

Cultivate supportive relationships

Get regular exercise and enough sleep

Eat a healthy, mood-boosting diet

Manage your stress and practice relaxation techniques

Challenge negative thought patterns

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Friend, I know your situation because I have experienced it already,

This is very simple to solve.

1)Take piece of paper and pen

2) think what all tings you are good at like sports,writing,GK etc

3)Think of things that you can do better than your bro

4)Solely believe that you have mission on your life and you are going to achieve no matter what.

You will suceed