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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingAdoption · 1 decade ago

How old were you when you adopted?

Hi,

I'm quite curious about adoption at the moment, having watched the C4 documentaries about adoption this week.

I was just wondering how old you were when you adopted, or if you are an adoptee, how old your adoption parents were?

I only ask because the examples that they gave were all for adopters well into their 30s and I wondered whether it was rare to get younger adopters?

Thanks for your help!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I was 27 and my DH was 28 when we adopted our son. He was 13 months old. I was 33 and my DH was 34 when we adopted our daughter. She was 16 months old.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My parents were 46 (my dad) and 32 (my mom). They had actually been turned away by numerous adoption agencies because my dad was "too old." I'm glad they waited, because they were able to give me everything a child deserves and more! They have been the most amazing parents I could ever dream of.

    EDIT: My parents are in their fifties and sixties now, but I feel like I benefit from that. I think I am more mature than most people my age, because my parents are "older". They are so wise, and so much fun. 50 and 60 is not OLD when it comes down to it. Because they were more established than younger parents might be, they were able to give me the whole world. They always have the best advice and suggestions. I have never, not once, felt disadvantaged by having "older" parents. They are truly amazing people!

  • 1 decade ago

    I went to my adoptive parents at 3 months and the adoption was finalized when I was 1 year old. They were 30 and 33

  • 1 decade ago

    I was a little under a year old the first time I was adopted (don't know how old they were). Was going on three for my second adoption and my parents were 38 and 44.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My parents were 24 and 25 when they adopted me as an infant. This was several decades ago, though, during the baby scoop era. I think it's unusual to find adoptive parents that young today.

    Having spoken at a couple of educational workshops for prospective adoptive parents, I would hazard a guess that most of the attendees were in their 30s, with perhaps a few in their late 20s.

    I think, as someone else has suggested, people are waiting longer to start families. And once you factor in the length of time of fertility treatments, an option that has become more prevalent today, it can be a while before people turn to adoption. (Of course, as others will likely point out if I don't, not all prospective adoptive parents are infertile. But those who are may take years before deciding on adoption.)

    Source(s): Living life as an adoptee one day at a time
  • 1 decade ago

    I'm 13 yrs old and i was adopted 2 times when i was a just born until i was 7 then DHS took us then we were in foster care for 2 yrs then my my my parents adopted us at 8 then every thing changed alot so there is your answer.

  • AnnieB
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    1 decade ago

    my friend was adopted when she was 3 months old, her adoptive parents were in their mid-30's - they put it off for ages thinking they may conceive naturally.

    I think people are settling down and trying for a family later, hence why people may be older now. They either wait til they have met the right person, waited to see if they could conceive naturally (which takes years) or have decided (like the woman on the show) to do it alone and it takes life experience and financial back-up.

    Some people adopt after their own families are that little bit older.

    Source(s): I am considering special needs adoption in approx 10-15 years time when my own children are grown up enough.
  • Wundt
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    We adopted when we were in our early 40s (41/42). My sister adopted when she was 32 and her husband 35.

    The reasons younger people are less likely to adopt is because (a) they usually are still trying to have children biologically, or if they have children, are busy raising them. Or (b), they don't have the resources to adopt, most governments and adoption agencies require you meet certain standards regarding income and stability to adoption. This is more common for people who are 30+. (In our case, it was a little of both of these reasons.)

  • 1 decade ago

    We adopted when I was 26 and my Husband was 29

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well I would think the reason Adoptive parents tend to be around 30 or older when they adopt is because, unless you go through foster care adoption is not cheap. Most people can't afford it till that age. Also a lot of people are just not ready to settle down till at least 25. Usually before that time people aren't really financially stable. I mean there are exceptions but, not be financially stable at that age is the norm.

    Also a lot of people realize at that age that they have wonderful lives and a lot to give and want to share that with a child that needs it. Younger people don't tend to think about others as much as people around their 30's and older.

    That is also about the age when some people start to really want to have a kid before it gets to late and they realize they have waited to late and now one of them or both are infertile. Lots of people finish college before having kids. That is great but, there are some that want to work for about 5 or 10 years and wait to late. Anyway that is my thoughts on the subject.

    Dianna

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