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? asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Is it too soon...pleaaseee answer?

I answer a lot of people's question, please reciprocate. Whats your opinion if a guy you re seeing for a little over 2 months is talking about having kids with you.

My boyfriend mentioned once at dinner one night..."our baby will be so cute. I'm handsome and you're cute"

I just laughed it off as I didnt really take it serious

About a week later, in bed before we dozed off, he asked me again

" Have you had any thoughts to us having kids"

I said "not really i havent thought about it" casually.

Im 25, and he's in his early 30's.

I do like him, and the thought of having his baby one day is not a bad idea (if he's the right guy) but Im not one to rush things, and I also think its a bit strange to talk about having kids at just 2 months of relationship??????

ADVICE

Update:

yes, we talked about the marriage stuff. I said I cannot have any kids until im married with the right person, and he said something along the line that if two people care about each other, they dont have to get married to start a life together. etc

But i insisted its the way I was brought up....

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think it depends on the relationship you have. He could feel as though he has an instant connection with you and feels like you are the one he wants to spend his life with. But you HAVE to look at the situation logically. This guy your dating is older than you, and obviously has a desire for a family, but be sure that he isn't simply using you, to get that family in a rush. If you don't stop and think about this, you could end up having children that have to shuttle between parents because things didn't work out soon after having those kids. Personally, I think it's too soon to get serious about that only 2 months in. If the idea of having his kids is appealing to you, tell him! Just remember, just because you like the idea, doesn't mean it's going to happen this second. It's something for the two of you to have complete comunication on.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes. It sounds like as he's slightly older, he figures he's got a great deal here. By having kids, he pretty much secures you as a partner, and having a nice looking younger gf is something to hang on to. Don't get me wrong, might just be a nice guy who likes the idea of having kids, after all that's what attraction and sex is all about right? But be honest with him, if your thinking about that right now, or you think its too early to be, then just say so. That will force out what ever true colours he has, and hopfully you will be pleasantly suprised. When ever you have kids you owe it to them and yourself to be ready for them so you can offfer the best you can to them. Honestly, two months seems rather quick, and I'd say as much.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It is to early to be asking that and best to let him know how you feel or he may keep pushing you about have a child and it will get to the point were you can stand it any more and you may brake up. He should at first get to know you give it time to find out the fun things about you and what you like and what your dislikes are as well as your likes. Have a mile stone were you have been together for some time before jumping that gun, be happy to have each other.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yes it is very early.

    i do not have much experience but i know that 2 months talking about kids is not right.

    you dont know everything about each other.

    he might have a secret or something and you might find hes not right for you.

    dont lead him on with babies until you are sure you want to have them.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    I answer first, and if the answering makes me think of or makes my day, then i will famous person. i understand...it particularly is choosy of me, sorry. o.o yet this way I finally end up pointing my followers and contacts to the *stable stuff* you already know? ^__^ Or a minimum of i attempt to. yet have a famous person besides in basic terms for being affected person and understand-how. ^_^

  • gen13
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I think he wants to be ur husband and i think he's the serious type when it come to relationships .. so yeah maybe he's taking u seriously.. u should be glad about that if u love him.

  • 1 decade ago

    NOT YET.

    GET A LIFE COMMITMENT FIRST.

    GET MARRIED.

    IF HE WILL NOT DO THAT HE MAY NOT BE AROUND FOR LIFE!

    DON'T BE SCARED.

    BE REAL

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