How can I overcome things like this?

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Okay, I'm a Christian for starters, and yes, I believe that Christ can help me work through it. If you don't believe that, please don't bash, I don't need that right now.
But anyway, lets just say that I've been through physical, verbal, and emotional abuse with my stepfather. God helped me through. I'm starting to understand myself a little better though. I looked it up and it was normal for people who went through that to have panic attacks. My real dad never understood why I had them, so he'd always criticize me for it. They gradually stopped.
But since I've gone through this, and my real mom is currently emotionally abusing me, my self-esteem is crushed. I constantly see myself as a failure. I know God doesn't want that for me and he doesn't want for me to see myself that way, and neither do I. But how can I not? She told me that it was my fault for all the abuse. I mean, this probably doesn't make sense.
I feel like I'm not loved. And I feel like I can never be in a relationship, because I might continue my childhood and become the abuser. I don't want to continue that curse. I'm just a teen, and I'm afraid to go date because 1) the man might be the same as my stepdad, and 2) it might carry on and we might get married and I'll be the same to my kids and him. I want this to break! I just don't know how though...

Virginia B (John 16:33) · Accepted Answer

Your life sounds so much like mine when I was your age, and my heart goes out to you.  First and foremost, you are a child of God, and He loves you with an everlasting love.  He knows how hard this has been on you.  He also knows you want to be happy, contented, and filled with peace and joy.  And, He knows you do not want to become an abuser yourself.  Just because you are being treated badly, does not mean you will eventually treat others in that manner; that's a lie of Satan.  "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Phil. 4:13.  You need to say that verse every time you are fearful, every time you are made to feel worthless by others, and every time you think you can't have what God intends for you to have in this life, which is fulfillment, happiness, joy and peace.  I am going to pray for you, and I will continue to remember you in my prayers.  Please email me anytime you just need someone to talk to - I'm a good listener :)  God bless you Michelle!!!

Heavenly Father - I come to You on behalf of my sister in Christ, Michelle.  Lord, I ask that You place a hedge of protection around her.  Fill her heart to overflowing with Your love, peace and joy.  Strengthen her by your Holy Spirit.  Be a lamp unto her feet, guiding her in Your truth.  And, Lord, I pray You send her a young man who loves You, and who will love Michelle for the sweet and humble person she is, someone who is patient, kind and understanding.  Lord, I thank You for hearing this prayer request, and I thank You for what You are going to do for Michelle.  It's in Jesus' Name I pray.  Amen

wider scope · Answer

As soon as you can, if this continues, breaks ties w/ your family.  Surround yourself w/ gentle-minded people and always, always, always replace those negative thoughts w/ the vision of yourself living a different life of your own making.

Your ability to discern is evident.  You can do this.

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