For those who are bisexual and married: Do you have an open marriage? Do you have a traditional marriage?

I can't answer your question directly, but I'll tell you about my experience. You can draw your own conclusions.

My wife and I had dated for 4 years (since we were 15) and got married at the age of 19. She came from a very troubled home life. Two years after being married, I deployed, and was gone for around 8 months. During the time I was gone, and she was alone to think, she came to the realization that she was bisexual, and had always been so, and had been actively trying to supress that aspect of herself since we started dating. She loved me very much, and was very happy with our marriage, but still...she craved female affection, as well. To make a long story short, she had a fling with another woman while I was gone, and she confessed completely when I got home. We talked about why she had the fling, and I began to realize that I could demand she stay true to me, and she would do so, but that it would be denying her a part of herself, and it would cause her pain. I chose not to cause her pain, and encouraged her to date other women as she wanted to, all the while praying she wouldn't decide she didn't love me any more.

Time past, and eventually, she confessed that she was falling in love with another woman, but she didn't love me any less. She introduced me to this other owman, and I found that she was a lot of fun, very attractive, practical, and that she cared very deeply for my wife, as well.

In the end, we asked her to move in with us, and we have been living as a committed triad (meaning that we don't have an open marriage at all. We are only ever intimate with each other) for the past 15 years. Ours is certainly not a traditional marriage, but it is a joyous, healthy, strong, balanced relationship, and I thank my Gods each and every day for both of them.

Firstly the law does not intrude into a place of worship. Any church or temple can decide not to marry a couple without fear of prosecution. Marriage is already defined as a man and a woman so what has stopped a father and daughter suing to marry so far - your argument on that one makes no sense whatsoever. People can not sue to be married, it doesn't work that way and never has. I don't know the full legal stuff on this but clearly the law does not allow it or people would have already done it. Two consenting adults should be allowed to marry. Full stop. @Jessica your not a lesbian your just some bored troll.

I tend to agree that just because a person is bi doesn't mean that they need to have an open relationship. I mean, I like a variety of types of men but I remain faithful to my husband. He also probably would be attracted to a variety of women, but he chooses to remain faithful to me. It's all about sacrifice for a higher purpose. That seems to be lacking when bisexual people insist on an open relationship only because they're bi.

I'm a bisexual man, and I am in a monogamous marriage. My wife and I have been married for 22 years, and in all that time I have never had sex with a man. Have I felt attractions to males? Yes, of course. But being bisexual, I have also felt attractions to other women during our marriage. However, an attraction is just that - most people get them, so what? What's important is that I am married, and with that comes the totally legitimate expectation of monogamy.

This is not to blame your friend for wanting what he wants. Maybe he will find a woman who will be supportive of his desires. It won't be easy finding her, though!

PS - For more answers to this, if you have not already, you might also want to try posting this in Society & Culture > Cultures & Groups > Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered.

All we live in a marriage that seems to be traditional, but like to have an open.

Great point, but I'm not 100%

Whats his reason for getting married?

Taxes? Seems like that to me because I dont see why on earth he needs to get married

I agree with most of what's been answered

Did someone say "Open marriages" again? Geeze!

why does he wants to get married ?